Wake Your Dream

16 - People-Pleasing, Procrastination, And Prioritizing Yourself

In This Episode: Annaliese and Alan explore the profound impact of procrastination on your own confidence, and really show the significance of following through and living more from your core values. Learn how to live in more freedom from people-pleasing and start prioritizing yourself.
You’ll Hear About:
Procrastination's subtle yet negative effects on your identity and trust in yourself.
Doing less people-pleasing so you can stand in your own authority to make choices that genuinely matter to you.
Identifying your own core values and acting in more ways that support them.
Practicing the empowering exercise of actually evaluating the reasons behind your hesitation, and see how to support your follow-through that much more!
Prioritizing what's actually important to you in your life so you can embrace yourself more and have healthier relationships with others.
Resources:
Ready to live authentically and intentionally? Have your free 60-minute Discovery Chat with Annaliese. No strings attached, just invaluable tools and support.
"Follow-Through More" Questions to Ask Yourself:
Do I know what I want specifically? (describe this, how I’d feel, what it is)
Do I know what I don’t want specifically? (describe this, how I feel, why I don’t want it)
Do I know why I want what I want? (why is this important to me, what I want it to give me)
Do I know what’s specifically in my way?
What will it take to support myself following through?
7 WHY’S (based on Simon Sinek’s book Find Your Why): Ask yourself “Why?” 7 times in a row. (“Why,” “Why does that matter,” or “Why is that important to me?”). Record your answers to these 7 Why's to uncover your deepest motivation for personal growth.
Don't miss this episode to help you deal with procrastination, connecting with your core values, dropping people-pleasing habits, and living authentically.

15 - Use Helpful Words In Your Self-Talk (Even In Hard Circumstances)

Annaliese and Alan dive into the power of your words, and how they shape your personal growth journey. They emphasize the importance of the language you're using in your self-talk and how it impacts your ability to make progress. Annaliese highlights that the story you tell yourself can either empower you or stress you out. It's all about recognizing and adjusting your thoughts to steer your choices more intentionally, free from external pressure or the old standard you've been used to.
You’ll Hear About:
You're telling yourself a story in your mind. Does it feel empowering or limiting to you? Your inner story reveals whether you see possibilities in your situation, or feel trapped. Try adding the word "yet" if you want to do something that you haven't been able to before, or using words that make you feel allowed to be right here, right now.
Making the effort to change your language is worthwhile because it puts you back in control. Your thoughts steer your actions, so you must decide if they are propelling you forward or holding you back.
Recognizing that you have a choice in the language you use within your thoughts is a crucial step in taking charge back over your life, even during moments of frustration or difficulty.
Craft words into your thoughts and change the story in ways that that are helpful, hopeful, and truthful to you right now. How do you want to feel? You have the power to pick words that pave the way for the direction you want to go.
Shift your thoughts from:
“I don’t know.”
to a thought like, “I do know something. What do I know that can help me progress?”
“I can’t change it, what do I do now?”
use this as a prompt to explore deeper: “What can I do right now? What's one action I can take to move forward?”
Resources:
Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to take a new route on your journey to being your true self. Have your own free 60-minute Discovery Chat – a no-strings-attached opportunity for insightful tools and personal support with Annaliese.
Explore Alan’s book, “Journeying With Pain,” at: https://winningathome.app.neoncrm.com/np/clients/winningathome/product.jsp?product=70&
The 3 Questions To Know Your Self-Thought:
How do I actually feel about this? (use real words to describe your true emotions)
What does that mean I think about me?
What could I think differently that would be helpful to me? *Taking action based on your new thought helps you to be who you want to be, starting now.
Best Way To Practice Reclaiming Your Words:
Identify a specific challenging situation.
Consciously observe the thoughts you have about yourself related to this issue.
What words in this thought make you feel trapped or limited? What words could you replace those with that would make you feel more open and capable (even if you can't control the situation)?"|
Apply what you've learned to feel more capable and gain more options.
Music Credit:Lo-Fi Chill Hip Hop - Rob Barnes

14 - Update Yourself: The Simple Tool For Meaningful Growth

Annaliese and Alan talk about how when you’re working to make changes, it’s good to be aware that the ways you think about yourself make a huge impact on your new behavior, words, and thoughts, and your results. Annaliese brings up a mental tool that she’s created for herself and her clients called “Update Yourself”. This is the practice of thinking about yourself in a more empowered and capable way than you have before, which reshapes your self-image and helps you make change possible.
In this episode, you'll learn ways to:
Unlock Your Brain's Potential: Notice the power you have to update your self-image by rewiring your brain using better thoughts that redefine your capabilities and help you embrace change.
Empower Your Choices: Take control of your decisions by helping yourself think in ways that break you free from old unhelpful patterns that had you settling, and let go of limiting standards like perfectionism.
Transformative Self-Stories: Discover how noticing and updating your self-stories affect your body and mindset, and give you more fuel and motivation by practicing celebrating your growth more daily.
Building a Better Relationship with Yourself: The "Update Yourself" tool acts like your bridge inside yourself, helping you move away from self-doubt and into belief in who you want to be, owning your own newfound capability to make change happen.
Positive Mindset: Shift your focus while you're working on making change happen from negative assumptions to more positive expectations when it comes to navigating uncertainty. Keep it lighthearted and doable!
 
Annaliese also provides a practical 3-step process to Update Yourself:
Reflect on how you're different today compared to your past self. "What do you care about now that you didn't before? And how am I different than I used to be?"
Acknowledge your improvements and share these positive changes with yourself. This self-recognition is a powerful motivator!
Remember that the ultimate goal is engaging with your life as your true self, not chasing a perfect outcome. Focus on the changes you want to make and find thoughts that make these changes seem possible for you and satisfying to you.
Resources:- www.linktree.com/coachannalieseWant to live like your real self, more and more? Click my link to grab your free 60-minute Discovery Chat with me. Let's chat, no strings attached. Just an hour of insightful tools and support. Can't wait to connect with you!-A values-forward time management book I love: The One Thing by Gary Keller - https://a.co/d/fQX3Q7J
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13 - Recognize Your Wins: Celebrating Everyday Small Steps

Are you giving yourself credit for even your smallest, daily steps? Annaliese and Alan talk about how this helps your confidence because you know you're going where you're trying to go. When you don't credit your progress, you'll feel stuck more quickly, believing there's an obstacle to where you're going and who you want to be.
Crediting each step helps you think more capably and confidently and feel like you matter and you're creating things you want for your life.
You'll Hear About:
The difference between who you are and who you want to be is in the way you're thinking.
Small, tiny steps are your milestones. Owning them is what creates the end result you're picturing.
A lot of life is sitting in something that's unfinished.  You will experience falling short along the way. Crediting your progress makes you feel more stable, capable, and connected to the everyday work you're doing.
You don't need as much support from others as you think when you practice crediting your own progress and celebrating your own milestones regularly.
Resources:
www.linktree.com/coachannaliese <-- Are you ready to live like the real you, more and more? Grab your free 60-minute Discovery Chat here so I can show you how. Just you and me, no strings attached. Just an hour of insightful tools and support. Can't wait to connect with you!
Mental Tool: Ladder Thoughts
Picture your current thought as a rung on a ladder you're standing on.
Your brain, by default, notices what's negative. Does your current thought feel like you're going downhill? Now is when you reverse that. Pick whether you want to keep thinking the current thought!
Picture yourself choosing a better thought that faces you forward. Just a 1% better thought than the thought you're currently thinking. Be intentional, and screw it into your ladder.
Repeat that thought so you can climb up and move forward.
Music Credit:Lo-Fi Chill Hip Hop - Rob Barnes

12 - Emotional Self-Care To Take Control of Your Day

Annaliese and Alan talk about getting caught up in the feelings of right now. Bring yourself back to feeling more present and give your day another chance. Annaliese brings up ways to practice emotional self-care, and how to face and handle the struggle throughout the day so your mind can work for you, not against you. You can act like you DO have a choice even when you don’t feel like you do.You’ll Hear About:-Noticing is powerful when your current feeling is trying to take over and tell you that it’s the whole picture of your life (noticing helps you remind yourself it’s not!)-Your feeling is a signpost – it’s telling you to take a second and care for yourself NOT telling you to shut down your day-Emotional maturity is the ability to sit with discomfort. It’s the difference between caring or avoiding. If you can practice sitting in your discomfort, you’ll be able to create more of the mindset, real self-care, and actions that feel way better in your dayResources:- www.linktree.com/coachannaliese <-- Ready to live like the real you, more and more? Click my link to grab your free 60-minute Discovery Chat. Let's chat, no strings attached. Just an hour of insightful tools and support. Can't wait to connect with you!- Ten Percent Happier (meditation app)https://www.tenpercent.com/membership- Defy The Lie (practice)Instead of always trying to outrun that consuming, negative feeling (the fire-breathing dragon!), just do the simple thing you haven’t done yet – Stop.Physically stop and turn around to face it.It might feel terrifying, but listen… the power is NOT in the negative thought or feeling, the power is only in the cycle of you repeatedly trying to run away and get away from it. Break the fear pattern by stopping and turning and taking the time to attend to your thought and face what you’re really experiencing.
Music Credit:Lo-Fi Chill Hip Hop - Rob Barnes

11 - Find Your Why

Annaliese and Alan talk about finding your Why and how knowing your inner reasons for making change is what helps you follow through. Annaliese brings up how finding your Why connects you with your actual purpose, and owning what you care about underneath your goals and the decisions you’re trying to make makes you feel like you matter in your life.You’ll Hear About:-Want to prioritize what actually matters to you? Knowing your Why helps you helps you do that. No matter your situation, you will always feel more satisfied when you make life decisions based on your Why.-Do you agree with what you’re doing and choosing in your life? What are the reasons you want to do things differently? That’s your Why.-Ask yourself who you want to be in your life. What would you most regret NOT doing? That’s your Why.-Thoughts are powerful tools for you to make change! They work as footholds for you to take the new steps in the change you want, own your Why more, and feel more satisfied and accomplished in your life.Resources:- www.linktree.com/coachannaliese <-- Ready to live like the real you, more and more? I want you to too! Click my link to grab your free 60-minute Discovery Chat. Let's chat, no strings attached. Just an hour of insightful tools and feeling supported. Can't wait to connect with you!- “Find Your Why” book by Simon Sinek- Mental Tool: Ladder Thoughts   1. Picture your thought as a rung for the ladder you’re standing on.   2. Picture yourself choosing a thought that’s just 1% better than the thought you’re currently thinking.   3. Be intentional, and screw that thought into your ladder. Repeat it to yourself so you can climb up and move forward.
Music Credit:Lo-Fi Chill Hip Hop - Rob Barnes

10 - Overcoming Obstacles

Annaliese and Alan talk about how obstacles are a frustrating, but normal (and sometimes empowering) part of making changes in our life. Annaliese brings up how obstacles are challenging, but thinking new ways about them help you get better results than before.You’ll Hear About:
Embracing Normal: Obstacles are a normal part of intentional living, and acknowledging they will happen is the first step towards growth.
Your Relationship with Yourself: The way you navigate obstacles is a reflection of your relationship with yourself. Learn how self-awareness can empower you to overcome challenges.
Handling Obstacles: Understanding how you typically respond to obstacles gives you a valuable opportunity to redefine how you see yourself and start thinking better thoughts.
You Have A Choice: Every obstacle is an internal choice point for you. You have the agency to decide how you'll handle challenges, even when it feels like you're trapped.
God Made You Capable: Annaliese reminds us that we're designed by God to conquer obstacles from a place of real capability, confidence, and curiosity.
Resources:- www.linktree.com/coachannaliese <-- Ready to live like the real you, more and more? Click my link to grab your free 60-minute Discovery Chat. Let's chat, no strings attached. Just an hour of insightful tools and support. Can't wait to connect with you!- Steps Of Facing An Obstacle: 1. See that it’s normal (showing yourself you can do it) 2. Stop and slow down enough to hear yourself think 3. Face it and describe what you think 4. Be specific and remind yourself of the evidence you have that you’ve been through experiences before that will help you with this obstacle now- Journal Prompts (to get to your deeper thought):QUESTIONSWhat am I thinking about me? What am I thinking about this obstacle? What am I thinking is the cost in how I’d handle this?7 WHY’S (based on Simon Sinek’s book Find Your Why):When you answer why you're feeling anxious about an obstacle, ask yourself “Why?” 7 times in a row. (ex: “Why”, “Why does that matter”, or “Why is that important to me?”). Write your answers to these 7 Why’s to get you to your deeper thought.
Music Credits:Lo-Fi Chill Hip Hop - Rob Barnes

9 - Peaceful and Restful Productivity

Annaliese and Alan talk about making shifts to use your productivity to get more of what you want, even in the messy middle and uncertain circumstances. Annaliese brings up how daily productivity doesn’t have to feel so anxious! She shows how you can make shifts to a more peaceful and meaningful productivity.You’ll Hear About:-How to get things done AND make changes in life even when you feel frustrated, anxious, or aimless.-Productivity doesn’t give you more value in your life. It’s not the reason you matter as a person. You already matter.-Start asking yourself more questions. About your pace in life, your priorities, who you’re being, and the decisions you’ve been making. Do you know your core values? Defining these inner things are what fuel you to shift from anxious productivity to peaceful productivity.-Base your decisions of what you should be doing next on who you want to be, not on what you think needs to get done. When you know and connect with who you're being, your priorities become a lot clearer.Resources:- www.linktree.com/coachannaliese <-- Ready to live like the real you, more and more? Click my link to grab your free 60-minute Discovery Chat. Let's chat, no strings attached. Just an hour of insightful tools and support. Can't wait to connect with you!- Your Resources: Time, Money, Attention, Energy- Picture A Scale (1-10): When making a change, don’t ask yourself what it would take to go from a 2 to a 10… ask what it would take to get from a 2 to a 3.
 
Music Credits: Lo-Fi Chill Hip Hop - Rob Barnes

8 - Mindset Shift Part 2: Radical Acceptance And Self-Compassion

Annaliese and Alan talk about how if you're going to make changes in your life and get better results, you're actually start with practicing thinking about and treating yourself differently. Annaliese brings up Radical Acceptance and Self-Compassion as Part 2 of mindset shifts that have helped her change and move forward from unhelpful past patterns. She's made shifts from being self-judgmental and only prioritizing the hustle, to prioritizing what really matters and what feels satisfying, good, and refreshing in her life.You’ll Hear About:-To feel new and different about yourself, you need to think and act in new and different ways-Ask yourself: “What are the practical things I’m doing to treat myself more like a friend? More like someone who wants the best for me?”-Ask yourself: “What would actually help me right now? Not help me get tasks done, but help me?”-Radical Acceptance and Self-Compassion are about being kinder and more loving and accepting toward yourself. This helps you take charge in your life in ways that feel much better and work more effectively for you -You know yourself better than you think you do. It’s a really important way to feel about yourself to trust that. This helps you decide whether you’re letting yourself down or not, and just see your choice a different way. No punishment or striving needed.-“Treat yourself like your WHOLE self belongs in the room. Your struggles don’t disqualify you. There’s no reason to run or hide from reality. It’s okay that you’re going through this, and you have other parts of you that can come in and help you right here.”
Resources:- www.linktree.com/coachannaliese-Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind To Yourself by Dr. Kristin Neffhttps://www.amazon.com/s?k=self+compassion+neff&crid=3FAPHU5ZDDF17&sprefix=self+compassion+nef%2Caps%2C104&ref=nb_sb_noss_2-Self-Compassion: The 3 Elements of Self-Compassion by Dr. Kristin Neffhttps://self-compassion.org/the-three-elements-of-self-compassion-2/
 
Music Credits:
Lo-Fi Chill Hip Hop - Rob Barnes

7 - Mindset Shift Part 1: Extreme Ownership

Annaliese and Alan talk about the ways you intentionally (and unintentionally) show up in your life and how that impacts you. Annaliese brings up Extreme Ownership (taking full responsibility for the good stuff and the bad) as Part 1 of new mindset shifts that have helped her change how her life is going. It's helped her move from a victim mentality to acting and feeling more proactive and confident in her life. You’ll Hear About:-Dismissing your responsibilities will leave you feeling stuck and confused-Being fully honest with yourself and taking actions that show you actually care will give you more of the results you want in your life-When you act like you can control things that you can’t, you’ll be depleted and exhausted-Acting like you can’t face reality makes you feel like you can’t face reality. You start believing it.-It feels scary to be in full responsibility because that means you’ll break down your impression of yourself. But that’s a good thing because it helps you see and be your true self. Resources:- www.linktree.com/coachannaliese
-Your Resources: Time, Money, Attention, EnergyYou are the adult of your life. You choose how to use these resources. No one else chooses or gets to tell you the “right” answer for how you’re using your resources or how you’re making decisions in your life. -Extreme Ownership helps you take full responsibility for your choices so you feel aligned with who you really are and are making life decisions from a stable, true place inside yourself.-Ask yourself regularly:            -“Am I proud of how I just showed up?”             -“What’s the reason I just showed up that way? Where was I coming from?”            -“How do I feel as I’m pushing toward this goal? Do I like this feeling? What if I choose what I'd rather feel as I’m moving forward?”
Music Credits: Lo-Fi Chill Hip Hop - Rob Barnes