Wake Your Dream

36 - The Satisfaction Of Holding Yourself Accountable

Annaliese and Alan discuss the importance of inner accountability in achieving personal goals. They explore how relying solely on external factors can block your progress and how paying attention to your thoughts and desires along the way builds self-support and benefits your decision-making.You'll Hear About:
-Your Relationship with Yourself: Annaliese emphasizes that much of your growth comes from within, highlighting the significance of nurturing a healthy self-relationship during your goal pursuit.  -Inner Accountability: It's about recognizing your worth and authority in making choices that align with your aspirations. You have the power to support yourself better and make better decisions.
-Setbacks and Progress: Setbacks don't negate progress; they reveal areas for improvement and empowerment. By acknowledging where you over-rely on others, you can cultivate self-trust and authenticity.
Resources:
-Free Discovery Chat: www.linktree.com/coachannaliese Schedule your free, 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese! You’ll spend the first 20-30 minutes with Annaliese getting to know you better as you share about your life, story, and situation, and then spend the final 30 minutes as Annaliese coaches you on the topic you really want to focus on. This call is so you can experience coaching with Annaliese and notice if working with her would help you make your life more what you want it to be.  -Benefits of Inner Accountability:  - Builds self-trust  - Provides stability and confidence  - Keeps you connected to your authentic self  -Practicing Inner Accountability:  - Identify triggers and negative patterns.  - Tap into your strengths and tools.  - Connect with what you need intentionally.  -Ways to Think About Inner Accountability:
-Stop and Notice:When you feel negative, connect back to yourself and the reality of your situation. You're in charge.  -Remind Yourself:You can change your mind, give yourself different options, and use your skills and tools.  -Stay Motivated:Refocus on what you know and are capable of, rather than seeking external validation or guidance.  -Update Yourself:You're not back at Square 1; you have more capability, wisdom, and tools than before.  -Empower Yourself: Inner accountability comes from a loving and empowering place within you. You have what you need to handle things differently and achieve your goals.
Listen for more of how embracing your inner accountability can transform your approach to goal-setting and decision-making, leading to greater fulfillment and authenticity in your life.

35 - Why Perfectionism Is Unhelpful: How To Accept Your Imperfections

Annaliese and Alan talk through some reasons we try to be perfect through life's twists and turns, and how it actually works against us. Annaliese brings up the importance of slowing down to reflect on our experiences and catching where we're holding unhelpful standards of perfectionism over ourselves instead of living more fully and freely as we are.
Here's more of what you'll hear:
-Discover your unhelpful standards: Ever felt the weight of pursuing perfection without even defining what it means to you? This is a common struggle! You can help yourself set better standards that inspire growth and resonate with who you really are.
-Spotlighting anxiety triggers: Have you ever found yourself paralyzed by the fear of not measuring up? Tune in to shine a light on those moments of heightened pressure, helping you recognize exactly when perfectionism is holding you back.
-Embracing imperfection: You'll learn about better ways to navigating your discomfort. Embracing your own imperfection, a little at a time, fosters growth and frees you from the concrete wall of unreachable perfection.
STEPS TO ACCEPT YOUR IMPERFECTIONS MORE:
- Awareness: Slow down and tune into those moments when you're uncomfortable with your own imperfection... this is where you're holding a standard over yourself that just isn't helpful.- Reflection: Name and explore the feelings driving your discomfort, uncover for yourself the reasons why they're there inside you.- Intention: Define how you want to feel and think about yourself in moments of failure, limitiations, and mistakes.- Empowerment: Challenge the status quo of perfectionism - you don't even want it, if you're honest with yourself! Take control of your thoughts and the perspectives you pick to live from.- Authenticity: Your journey is unique, focus on your own personal growth and progress when you find yourself comparing.
Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your free Discovery Chat with Annaliese. In this call, you’ll spend the first 20-30 minutes with Annaliese getting to know you better as you share about your life, story, and situation, and then spend the final 30 minutes as Annaliese coaches you on the topic you really want to focus on. This call is so you can experience coaching with Annaliese and see how it could help you make your life more what you want it to be.Listen in with us and let's navigate life's twists and turns IMPERFECTLY and freely together!

34 - 3 Surprising Things That Help A Relationship

Join Annaliese and Alan in this episode as they uncover the hidden gems of relationship growth. They'll show you how simple, everyday actions can deepen connections in your life.
You'll Hear About:
-Noticing More: Learn to pay attention to how others experience you. By tuning in, you'll discover what truly builds connection and where to invest your energy for maximum impact.
-Authentic Listening: Explore the art of active listening. By fully engaging with others, you can understand their perspectives and strengthen your bonds. Discover the joy of being fully present in your interactions.
-Owning Your Mistakes: Embrace vulnerability by admitting when you've made a misstep. This act of honesty builds trust and authenticity, fostering deeper connections with yourself and others.
PRACTICE:
3 Surprising Things That Help Relationships
Active Listening: Focus on truly hearing the other person without mentally preparing your response while they're talking. Tune in to their tone, attitude, and feelings to deepen understanding and connection.
Notice when you're only partly listening or distracted by other thoughts or things.
Pay attention to how it feels to fully engage with the other person, catching nuances and emotions.
Embracing Vulnerability: Admitting mistakes can be challenging due to our own fear of judgment or shame. However, when you're honest it fosters trust and invites authenticity in relationships.
Recognize your feelings of shame, embarrassment, or fear when avoiding responsibility.
Practice admitting your mistakes without judging yourself. This empowers you to learn and to grow trust in your relationships.
Quality Time: In a busy world, you can still prioritize meaningful interactions over superficial connections by creating more quality time. Quality time is co-created with the other person and you get to invite that more when you intentionally practice presence and engagement.
Reflect on what quality time means for both you and the people you love.
Identify the fact that quantity doesn't equal quality, and create more genuine, deeper connection.
RESOURCES
-Ready to take your own life to the next level? Schedule your free, 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese at www.linktree.com/coachannaliese. Experience connecting (you get to talk through your situation as Annaliese listens and asks you questions in the first 20 minutes of the call) and coaching with Annaliese (you get to experience Annaliese asking you clarifying questions that help you practically in the last 30 minutes of the call) and see how it could help you start creating more of the quality of life you're wanting.
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This episode is all about empowering you to cultivate deeper, more meaningful connections in your life. Listen in to start taking these actionable steps and bonus tips, and watch as your relationships start flourishing with more authenticity!

33 - 3 Surprising Things That Hurt A Relationship

Annaliese and Alan get real about the ups and downs of relationships, shining a light on behaviors that might be holding us back without us even realizing it.
You’ll Hear About:
Treating Relationship Issues Like Physical Issues:When we tackle relationship problems head-on, just like we would with any physical issue, we give ourselves a chance to help our relationships get better in ways we might not have thought possible. By digging deep and addressing the root causes, we can build stronger, healthier connections.
Practicing Self-Awareness:It's so important to be tuning into our thoughts, feelings, and actions when navigating the ups and downs of relationships, becuase knowing what you're actually experiencing tells you what you need. It's all about gaining clarity on what we truly need to grow.
Perspective and Assumptions:See how your perspectives and assumptions are shaping your relationship experiences. By opening up dialogue and involving the other person more, we can clear up misunderstandings and strengthen our bonds.
Noticing Blind Spots:Recognizing our own blind spots is key to personal growth and improving our relationships. It's about embracing that change is normal, and opens us up to being ourselves more authentically and exploring new possibilities together.RESOURCES:Schedule A Free Discovery Chat: Head over to www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to book a free 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese. You’ll spend the first 20-30 minutes with Annaliese getting to know you better as you share about your life, story, and situation, and then spend the final 30 minutes as Annaliese coaches you on the topic you really want to focus on. It's a chance to experience coaching firsthand and see if it's the right fit for your relationship goals.
3 Surprising Things That Hurt Relationships:1. Neglecting Self-Care: Not taking care of your emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being puts you in a spot to rely on the other person for things they can't help you with. Taking responsibility to step in and nurture yourself actually builds healthier interactions and relationships.2. Assumptions: Challenge those conclusions your brain is jumping to and see the bigger picture by asking more questions when you feel you already know, and making room for more open and interactive discussions with the other person.3. Seeing Differences as Threats: Instead of seeing another way of doing or thinking as a threat to you, embrace how much stronger your relationships can be when you invite the other person's perspectives and prioritize better understanding in your relationships.
Listen in for insights you can take action on to nurture meaningful connections and create healthier relationships for yourself!

32 - Your Child Self And Self-Compassion: Being Your Whole Self

In this episode, Annaliese and Alan explore how much impact childhood experiences have on shaping our adult identities and the ways we think about ourselves and our lives. You'll Hear About:
-Understanding Your Inner Narrative: Explore the stories from your past that influence how you currently think and behave. Recognizing which stories come from your child self can help you better navigate feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.
-Managing Insecurity and Anxiety: Learn to identify when your inner child is feeling overwhelmed and overly responsible. Allow your adult self to step in to remind and reassure you of your capabilities and resources.
-Connecting with Your Whole Self: Notice the emotions and perspectives of both your younger self and adult self. Understanding what your inner child needs in the moment can help you practice self-compassion and authenticity. This connecting helps you deepen your sense of understanding and accepting your whole self more.
-Consciously Choosing Your Responses: Take control of how you respond to situations by consciously choosing your thoughts and feelings. By reminding yourself you have a choice over what you're focusing on, you can choose to focus on your capabilities. Doing that helps you empower your adult self to take the lead in managing challenges.
 
Parenting Yourself Practice:
1. Relate to Yourself:Focus on building a more nurturing relationship with yourself. By acknowledging and understanding different parts of yourself, you can provide support and stability when you encounter your own challenges or needs.
2. Develop Self-Awareness:Your relationship with yourself is crucial for personal growth and achieving goals. By learning to recognize how your inner child feels and thinks, you can build trust and confidence in your abilities, empowering yourself to navigate life's complexities with maturity and resilience.
3. Embrace Your Dual Roles:In your relationship with yourself, you embody both the parent and the child. When your inner child feels fearful or uncertain, let your adult self provide comfort and reassurance. Remind yourself that it's normal to feel scared, but act more from trust that you have the wisdom and capability to guide yourself towards safety and moving forward.Listen today for more encouragement in how to strengthen your confidence and love for yourself!
Your Free Resource:
Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your free, 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese! We'll spend the first 20-30 minutes with you sharing about your life, story, and situation, followed by 30 minutes of Annaliese leading you through personalized coaching. Experience coaching with Annaliese yourself so you can see if it can help you make the changes you want!
 

31 - Why Blame Doesn't Help: How To Handle Hurts & Setbacks Better

Annaliese and Alan delve into the relatable but unhelpful patterns of blame, uncovering why we do it and how it ultimately fails to provide the relief we're looking for. Blaming at first can feel like we're asserting power, but in reality, it strips away our choices and control. Annaliese highlights the importance of understanding our emotions and motivations, steering away from actions of blame towards actions of self-support and healing.
You'll hear these highlights and more:
You don't get resolution through blame, instead seek how to comfort and heal yourself versus assigning fault.
How to recognize in yourself the urge to blame and its underlying motivations.
How to harness your emotions as signals for self-awareness and growth.
Distinguishing between blame and responsibility, emphasizing growing your own empowerment through taking accountability.
Noticing ahead of time the damaging effects of blame on personal growth and well-being.
Ways To Help Yourself (Instead of Blaming):
Embrace your emotions as guideposts towards self-care (they show you what you need!).
Identify your needs and provide yourself support as you go.
Release the pressure to assign blame, choosing instead more constructive responses.
Cultivate for yourself a mindset of taking personal responsibility and being open to growth.
Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your free, 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese! We'll spend the first 20-30 minutes as you share about your life, story, and situation, followed by 30 minutes of personalized coaching. This chat is where you can experience coaching with Annaliese to determine if it aligns with your goals. 
Listen in today to get practical insights and actionable steps as you navigate hurtful and frustrating situations with more grace and self-compassion.

30 - The Goal Of Growth Isn't To Fix You, It's To Empower You

Annaliese and Alan dive into the sometimes frustrating journey of personal growth, inviting you to reflect on your own ups and downs, and see your experiences with new insights. Here's some of what you'll discover as you listen:
Exploring Growth as a Process:- Reflect on how your personal growth journey is actualyl like you having a toolbox filled with practices you can do daily, and helpful insights to remind yourself of.- You'll hear how to embrace growth more as a series of practices, insights, and decisions rather than a final destination.
Recognizing the Benefits of Growth:- Consider how each action you take in pursuit of growth contributes to your overall development and how capable you feel to handle your life.- You'll gain insight being reminded of the genuine impact of consistent effort throughout and along your journey.
Navigating Frustration:- The strategy of practicing embracing the slow and repetitive nature of growth is calming and rebalancing.- Repeating more positive thoughts in response to negative ones helps you reframe setbacks as opportunities so you can develop even further.
Empowering Yourself To Grow:- Reflect and own that struggling with growth doesn't disqualify you from the progress you've been making. You're already growing!- Consider the choice you have (always available to you) to adopt a more beneficial perspective towards your own growth journey (not a defeating perspective).
Resources:- Be sure to check out the www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to connect with Annaliese for your free coaching session, where you'll get tips and feel truly heard as you explore your options in your life situation.-Practice "Collecting Positive Evidence" Daily:
"Collect positive evidence" is a tool where you notice and celebrate what's working in your life (instead of staying focused on what's not working).
Picture it as a tool you can pick up each morning, like grabbing your keys.
Use it throughout your day, especially during negative moments you notice you're in.
Make practicing it your goal, allowing yourself to strengthen the muscle and improve over time and not get stuck needing immediate results
Want to cultivate a more positive mindset and really fuel your personal growth journey?
Join Annaliese and Alan as they guide you through the complexities of personal growth, encouraging self-reflection and offering practical insights along the way.

29 - How To Stop Stereotyping Your Marriage

Annaliese and Alan discuss the importance of nurturing your marriage beyond society's stereotypes (and stereotypes you might have in your own mind), emphasizing that when you personalize and get more intentional about your actions, it strengthens the bond between you and your partner.You’ll Hear About:-Don't Outsource Solutions:Instead of turning to quick fixes from friends or the internet, Annaliese and Alan suggest digging deeper into the unique dynamics of your relationship. Those oversimplified solutions can miss the mark, and leave you feeling more disconnected than ever.-Embracing Growth Together:There's alot of strength and beauty in growing and learning alongside your partner. Embracing growing together as a journey can strengthens the bond between you and your partner, even during the toughest times.-Authenticity in Marriage:Annaliese and Alan show you the liberating feeling of being your true self within your marriage. As you shed more of society's expectations, you can create a safe space for vulnerability and growth in your marriage and give your partner an inviting model to do that themselves too. Ultimately being your true self can lead you to a deeper connection together.-Practical Tips: From navigating conflicts to expressing needs kindly, the hosts offer down-to-earth advice for nurturing your relationship. Drawing from their own experiences and coaching expertise, they provide actionable steps to help listeners build a stronger, more fulfilling partnership.
Resources:- Free Discovery Chat with Annaliese: Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule a free 60-minute Zoom or phone call with Annaliese. This relaxed chat is your chance to get personalized support and guidance tailored to your unique situation. Whether you're facing challenges or simply seeking clarity, Annaliese will help you navigate life with better tools.
Tips to Treat Your Marriage Better:-Clear Communication:Open, honest communication is so crucial in nurturing a healthy relationship. Help yourself express your needs kindly, even in the midst of disagreements.-Address Issues Promptly: Annaliese and Alan discuss the significance of addressing issues in real-time rather than letting them pile up and fester over time. You can tackle more relational challenges head-on thatn you think, and doing this more regularly fosters a stronger, more resilient bond with your partner.
Ways to Relate, Not Stereotype:1. Ask Your Partner How You Can Help: Invite your partner into an open conversation. Ask them to share what actions you've been doing that are helpful or unhelpful. Don't see this as a To-Do list, but instead gathering info from each other and growing your understanding.2. Invite Your Partner Into Your Story: Learn to recognize and share the thoughts and assumptions shaping your interactions with your partner. Annaliese and Alan offer practical tips for creating a safe space for vulnerability and honesty.3. Take Your Relationship Temperature: Regularly check in with yourself to uncover what you've been thinking and feeling about your marriage. This is for maintenance and care of your marriage, and helps you stay engaged and notice things you might need to be communicating to your partner too!Can't wait to have you step in and listen for nuggets you connect with and might want to act on in your relationship too!

28 - Asking Questions To Get Unstuck

In This Episode:Annaliese and Alan dive deep into the transformative power of asking questions to gain more confidence in understanding and navigating your life situations and making better decisions, personally, professionally, and relationally.
Unveiling Assumptions: We explore the idea that sometimes we get stuck because our minds are operating on assumptions that might not be accurate. By asking questions, you can unravel these assumptions and gain clarity on your thoughts, setting the stage for self-awareness that feels more authentic and helpful to you.
The Power of Curiosity: Asking powerful questions not only empowers you but also makes you feel seen and known, even by yourself. It opens up all kinds of possibilities beyond what you first thought, and helps you grow in curiosity that can lead you to better ideas and decisions.
Navigating Interactions: You'll hear the importance of questioning your own assumptions before engaging with a person or situation. By anticipating your assumptions, you gain more control over your reactions and emotions, paving the way for more intentional and mindful interactions that you want.
Decisiveness Through Inquiry: Questions aren't just tools for self-reflection; they're instrumental in helping you make better-feeling decisions. They provide you mental space to explore ideas and relieve the feeling of being stuck or desperate. You'll ultimately feel your confidence and effectiveness boosted in being your true self more.
Practical Tools 
Ask Yourself:
"What assumptions am I already making here?"
"What am I assuming I'll feel in this situation?"
"What could I do to contribute to the outcome I'd rather have?"
The Transformative Impact: Why do questions hold so much power? They help you trust yourself more, move from stuck to curiosity, and embrace uncertainty with openness. Knowing what you think becomes a powerful tool for building confidence and feeling emotionally steady!
Listen in to feel supported today - empowering yourself more begins with a simple question.

27 - Facing Your Weaknesses Empowers You

In This Episode:Join Annaliese and Alan in this enlightening episode as they delve into the challenges and unexpected advantages of facing your weaknesses head-on. Annaliese emphasizes the transformative power of self-compassion on the journey of personal growth, highlighting the profound impact it can have on your life.
You'll Hear About:-Understanding Your Weakness:Annaliese encourages you to slow down and truly understand your weaknesses. Instead of avoiding or feeling guilty about them, she suggests that you can embrace self-compassion as a game-changer.
-More Choices:By not running away from weaknesses, you suddenly open up a world of choices. Acknowledging and accepting your weaknesses allows you to make decisions from a place of authenticity and self-awareness.
-Balancing Strengths and Weaknesses: It's not just about improving or eliminating weaknesses. You'll explore the concept of leaning into your strengths and using them to support yourself better to address the weaknesses you've identified.
Practical Steps and Resources:-Use www.linktree.com/coachannaliese for your free 60-minute Zoom or phone call. You'll get an open, casual conversation with Annaliese to help you strategize your current life challenges.
-Questions to Help You Face Your Weaknesses:  - Are my thoughts about my weaknesses constructive?  - Am I embracing my true self, both strengths and weaknesses?  - Am I basing my thoughts about this weakness on my own values, not others' opinions?
-Practice to Face Your Weaknesses:  - Pause, drop into your body, and explore your thoughts and feelings about your weakness.  - Acknowledge the urge you might have to run away, and then empower and support yourself by choosing to face it.  - Tune into your real experience inside to determine if it's a true weakness or influenced by others' opinions.
-Choices You Have When You're Facing Weakness:  1. Use it as an opportunity to grow.  2. Accept yourself on a deeper level.  3. Do the necessary work.  4. Remind yourself of your true identity and aspirations.
Empower yourself today by listening in to engage with your weaknesses and unlocking your path to better results in your life!