Wake Your Dream

29 - How To Stop Stereotyping Your Marriage

Annaliese and Alan discuss the importance of nurturing your marriage beyond society's stereotypes (and stereotypes you might have in your own mind), emphasizing that when you personalize and get more intentional about your actions, it strengthens the bond between you and your partner.You’ll Hear About:-Don't Outsource Solutions:Instead of turning to quick fixes from friends or the internet, Annaliese and Alan suggest digging deeper into the unique dynamics of your relationship. Those oversimplified solutions can miss the mark, and leave you feeling more disconnected than ever.-Embracing Growth Together:There's alot of strength and beauty in growing and learning alongside your partner. Embracing growing together as a journey can strengthens the bond between you and your partner, even during the toughest times.-Authenticity in Marriage:Annaliese and Alan show you the liberating feeling of being your true self within your marriage. As you shed more of society's expectations, you can create a safe space for vulnerability and growth in your marriage and give your partner an inviting model to do that themselves too. Ultimately being your true self can lead you to a deeper connection together.-Practical Tips: From navigating conflicts to expressing needs kindly, the hosts offer down-to-earth advice for nurturing your relationship. Drawing from their own experiences and coaching expertise, they provide actionable steps to help listeners build a stronger, more fulfilling partnership.
Resources:- Free Discovery Chat with Annaliese: Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule a free 60-minute Zoom or phone call with Annaliese. This relaxed chat is your chance to get personalized support and guidance tailored to your unique situation. Whether you're facing challenges or simply seeking clarity, Annaliese will help you navigate life with better tools.
Tips to Treat Your Marriage Better:-Clear Communication:Open, honest communication is so crucial in nurturing a healthy relationship. Help yourself express your needs kindly, even in the midst of disagreements.-Address Issues Promptly: Annaliese and Alan discuss the significance of addressing issues in real-time rather than letting them pile up and fester over time. You can tackle more relational challenges head-on thatn you think, and doing this more regularly fosters a stronger, more resilient bond with your partner.
Ways to Relate, Not Stereotype:1. Ask Your Partner How You Can Help: Invite your partner into an open conversation. Ask them to share what actions you've been doing that are helpful or unhelpful. Don't see this as a To-Do list, but instead gathering info from each other and growing your understanding.2. Invite Your Partner Into Your Story: Learn to recognize and share the thoughts and assumptions shaping your interactions with your partner. Annaliese and Alan offer practical tips for creating a safe space for vulnerability and honesty.3. Take Your Relationship Temperature: Regularly check in with yourself to uncover what you've been thinking and feeling about your marriage. This is for maintenance and care of your marriage, and helps you stay engaged and notice things you might need to be communicating to your partner too!Can't wait to have you step in and listen for nuggets you connect with and might want to act on in your relationship too!

28 - Asking Questions To Get Unstuck

In This Episode:Annaliese and Alan dive deep into the transformative power of asking questions to gain more confidence in understanding and navigating your life situations and making better decisions, personally, professionally, and relationally.
Unveiling Assumptions: We explore the idea that sometimes we get stuck because our minds are operating on assumptions that might not be accurate. By asking questions, you can unravel these assumptions and gain clarity on your thoughts, setting the stage for self-awareness that feels more authentic and helpful to you.
The Power of Curiosity: Asking powerful questions not only empowers you but also makes you feel seen and known, even by yourself. It opens up all kinds of possibilities beyond what you first thought, and helps you grow in curiosity that can lead you to better ideas and decisions.
Navigating Interactions: You'll hear the importance of questioning your own assumptions before engaging with a person or situation. By anticipating your assumptions, you gain more control over your reactions and emotions, paving the way for more intentional and mindful interactions that you want.
Decisiveness Through Inquiry: Questions aren't just tools for self-reflection; they're instrumental in helping you make better-feeling decisions. They provide you mental space to explore ideas and relieve the feeling of being stuck or desperate. You'll ultimately feel your confidence and effectiveness boosted in being your true self more.
Practical Tools 
Ask Yourself:
"What assumptions am I already making here?"
"What am I assuming I'll feel in this situation?"
"What could I do to contribute to the outcome I'd rather have?"
The Transformative Impact: Why do questions hold so much power? They help you trust yourself more, move from stuck to curiosity, and embrace uncertainty with openness. Knowing what you think becomes a powerful tool for building confidence and feeling emotionally steady!
Listen in to feel supported today - empowering yourself more begins with a simple question.

27 - Facing Your Weaknesses Empowers You

In This Episode:Join Annaliese and Alan in this enlightening episode as they delve into the challenges and unexpected advantages of facing your weaknesses head-on. Annaliese emphasizes the transformative power of self-compassion on the journey of personal growth, highlighting the profound impact it can have on your life.
You'll Hear About:-Understanding Your Weakness:Annaliese encourages you to slow down and truly understand your weaknesses. Instead of avoiding or feeling guilty about them, she suggests that you can embrace self-compassion as a game-changer.
-More Choices:By not running away from weaknesses, you suddenly open up a world of choices. Acknowledging and accepting your weaknesses allows you to make decisions from a place of authenticity and self-awareness.
-Balancing Strengths and Weaknesses: It's not just about improving or eliminating weaknesses. You'll explore the concept of leaning into your strengths and using them to support yourself better to address the weaknesses you've identified.
Practical Steps and Resources:-Use www.linktree.com/coachannaliese for your free 60-minute Zoom or phone call. You'll get an open, casual conversation with Annaliese to help you strategize your current life challenges.
-Questions to Help You Face Your Weaknesses:  - Are my thoughts about my weaknesses constructive?  - Am I embracing my true self, both strengths and weaknesses?  - Am I basing my thoughts about this weakness on my own values, not others' opinions?
-Practice to Face Your Weaknesses:  - Pause, drop into your body, and explore your thoughts and feelings about your weakness.  - Acknowledge the urge you might have to run away, and then empower and support yourself by choosing to face it.  - Tune into your real experience inside to determine if it's a true weakness or influenced by others' opinions.
-Choices You Have When You're Facing Weakness:  1. Use it as an opportunity to grow.  2. Accept yourself on a deeper level.  3. Do the necessary work.  4. Remind yourself of your true identity and aspirations.
Empower yourself today by listening in to engage with your weaknesses and unlocking your path to better results in your life!

26 - Better Ways To Keep Your Commitments And Live Intentionally

Annaliese and Alan delve into the experience of making and following through on commitments, and the essential role your thoughts and actions play in staying true to them. Annaliese emphasizes that your daily routines either help you engage with or avoid your commitment journey.
Key Things You'll Hear:
1. Emotional Awareness in Commitments:Annaliese highlights the impact of emotions on you following through on your commitments. Negative feelings can slow down and block your follow-through, but connecting to hopeful thoughts about your commitment can be a game-changer.
2. Aligning Actions with True Desires:Explore how acting in alignment with your commitments brings a sense of flow, joy, and satisfaction. Recognize that supporting your commitments is actually supporting your true self.
3. Overcoming Mental Blocks:Acknowledge and challenge the thoughts you have that block your commitment progress. Avoid the all-or-nothing mindset that slows you down, and practice engaging with your commitments in steps to help you stay with your progress.
4. Living Authentically and Intentionally:Connect the dots and show yourself how when you fulfill your commitment you're living more authentically. Each step toward your commitment contributes to truly being yourself.
5. Self-Leadership Reflection:Evaluate the leadership style you use in your commitment journey. Replace harsh self-talk with kindness and support to positively transform your engagement with your commitments.
Resources:
-Connect with Annaliese for your free 60-minute Zoom or phone call at www.linktree.com/coachannaliese. You'll get personalized encouragement and get to strategize your current challenges, while asking her any questions you have about where life coaching can bring you.
How To Stop All-Or-Nothing Thinking:    -Focus on and collect the tiniest steps you've made toward your commitment. Count any progress you've made.    -Take charge of your thoughts by picking thoughts to think that make you feel more connected to your progress and journey. It's your best strategy to overcome avoidance in the moment.Best Questions To Help You Choose Engagement (not Avoidance):
1. Who do I want to be right now?2. What direction do I want to move right now?
Join the conversation to empower yourself and help your commitment journey feel so much better!

25 - Daily, Practical Ways To Stop People-Pleasing

In This Episode:Annaliese and Alan explore practical ways to people-please less and experience genuine change in your daily life. Annaliese emphasizes the importance of prioritizing self-care and understanding that people-pleasing doesn't serve you. It's time to care for yourself just as much as you care for others.You'll Hear About:- The key to people-pleasing less is to notice you have a choice of how to act. Start replacing unhelpful thoughts and actions with ones that better support you and what you need too. - Embrace the idea that the goal isn't to completely stop but to help yourself gradually decrease, allowing you to catch and choose your responses more freely. - Shifting your mindset away from feeling obligated to please others and more toward seeing that you have a choice for authenticness in your own life is crucial. Resources: Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese for your free 60-minute Zoom or phone call with Annaliese. Engage in an open, casual conversation where you can bring up your questions about life coaching, and let Annaliese help you strategize your current life challenges. No strings, you might only need this call!Ask yourself empowering questions to stop people-pleasing:
"What would it take for me to stop?" – Create space to reflect and identify opportunities for different choices.
"Why do I start people-pleasing? What am I feeling?" – Uncover the real reasons behind your choices and identify your unmet needs so you can better support yourself.
"What do I really value here? How can I show up authentically while supporting my values?" – Explore meaningful ways to align your actions with your true values instead of just continuing to people-please.
Practical Ways To Stop People-Pleasing:
Practice self-awareness and take charge: Be the decision-maker by examining your thoughts and the situations that trigger your people-pleasing actions.
Identify your real values: Consider if your people-pleasing aligns with and satisfies your values, and explore healthier, more effective ways to be loving and caring to others.
Tune in and care for yourself: Prioritize self-care as a first step during uncomfortable moments. When you support yourself this way, instead of making decisions out of discomfort, you'll feel more free to make decisions that align with your well-being.
Set boundaries in relationships: Empower yourself and others by establishing healthy boundaries that contribute to the well-being of both of you.
Be willing to disappoint others: Practice being more okay with disappointing others when it means living authentically from your values. You'd want this authenticity for them, so remind yourself why this is so important for you too.
Join Annaliese and Alan as they talk about ways to have a more authentic and fulfilling life. Use this opportunity to make lasting changes for yourself with less people-pleasing stress!

24 - People-Pleasing: Why You Do It And How To Do It Less

In This Episode:Annaliese and Alan unpack the common habit of people-pleasing, something so many of us do without realizing it. Annaliese highlights that even though we don't notice it sometimes, recognizing when we fall into this pattern and understanding its impact can guide us towards living more authentically and get better results personally, professionally, and socially.
You’ll Hear About:- Unconscious Merging: People-pleasing shows up when we blend in with others without thinking, putting a strain on our connections because we're losing ourselves. By recognizing when we're doing it and how it feels when we do, we can start choosing to be our true selves more.
- Awareness of Your Actions and Feelings: Paying attention to how we act when we're people-pleasing and the feelings that come with it is a game-changer. This awareness gives you the power to make different choices, steering away from fake interactions and towards more genuine connections based on who you really are, and who they really are too.
- Not Actually Helpful: Contrary to what we might think, people-pleasing doesn't actually help others because it's not real! It's making guesses about what others want without actually knowing.
- Not Feeling Like Enough: If you ever feel like you're just not measuring up, notice what you're basing that on. It's usually a sign of people-pleasing. Choosing to reevaluate how you make decisions and focusing on what truly matters to you can help you break free from this cycle.
Resources:- www.linktree.com/coachannaliese: Have a laid-back chat with Annaliese for free. This easygoing conversation will give you valuable insights and help you figure things to get more of the results you want in your life. No obligations. You might only need this one call! Encourage yourself to live authentically.
- WHY DO WE PEOPLE-PLEASE?  - Solve problems, troubleshoot, protect ourselves, prepare  - Want to help, avoid upsetting others, fit in, and feel a sense of belonging  - It just feels normal and we think it keeps things calm.
- WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE?  - Consistently downplaying yourself and putting others first based on assuming what they're thinking.  - Denying yourself the freedom to choose your own path and use your own voice (something you'd encourage for others).
- HOW TO STOP PEOPLE-PLEASING:  - Question it. Break the cycle by asking yourself:      - Am I treating myself as well as I treat others?      - Am I taking charge of my life or letting others dictate it?      - Am I staying true to my values and letting myself be genuine with others?      - Am I excluding or disqualifying myself by always people-pleasing?      - Remind yourself: "I’m not actually keeping the peace if there’s no peace inside of me."

23 -Your Christian Faith: A Relationship And Foundation For Personal Growth

Join Annaliese and Alan in a down-to-earth conversation about the powerful role Christian faith plays as a foundation and anchor in our everyday lives. Annaliese opens up about her personal journey, navigating the ups and downs with God and life. This episode explores practical ways to integrate faith more naturally in your day as you let it shape your priorities, habits, and goals.
Key Takeaways:
Unpacking Faith in Daily Life: Reflect on what faith truly means for you and notice how it subtly influences your thoughts and actions each day. Your spiritual beliefs have a more significant impact than you might realize.
Inner Stability and Purpose: Personal growth is pretty demanding work that asks you to have a sturdy foundation and a sense of purpose. Annaliese believes that God, in His unconditionally loving and empowering nature, is the compass guiding you from the inside to be your true self.
Practical Truths for Empowerment: Discover the practical and empowering truths rooted in seeing yourself with God's unwavering love. Take a moment to evaluate if your own daily actions align with the importance you want your faith to have.
Renewed Minds and Practical Living: God's promises aren't just lofty ideals—they're meant to be lived out in your day-to-day! Embrace the process of renewing your mind and let God's promises help you think better thoughts and guide your decisions in the nitty-gritty of real life.
Resources:
www.calendly.com/coachwithannaliese/discovery  - Connect with Annaliese for your free 60-minute Zoom or phone call (you pick!). This is an open, casual conversation where you bring up your questions about life coaching and have Annaliese help you strategize what you're going through right now in your life. It will help you practically live more like you want to!
Practically Discover Your Own Faith:
Defining Your Faith: Take a moment to articulate what faith means to you and visualize how it can manifest in your daily life.
Discovering Your Purpose: Explore the fact that God designed you for a unique purpose. Your potential is intricately tied to just being more fully your true self.
Engaging with God More Daily: Deepen your relationship by defining who God is to you. Use Bible verses that draw you closer to Him, not ones that push you further away. Let yourself ask Him questions, and even wrestle and struggle with Him as you need to. He invites you to be this honest and close with Him.
Evaluate Your Actions and Choices: If faith is essential to you, take a look at how your daily actions reflect its importance. Are you allowing it to shape your decisions and pace?
Practically Live Out Your Own Faith More:
- Casual Conversations with God:Drop the weight of expectations that come from other people, the past, and your own self, and practice talking openly and honestly with God throughout your whole day.- Invite God into Decisions: Base your choices on a sense of deep peace rather than fearfulness by slowing down in the moment, inviting God to talk to you, and listening for His guidance underneath the choice. Then trust yourself to take action on where you notice the peace coming from.- Walk Out Bible Verses: Notice actionable words from Bible verses that are meaningful to you. Imagine how your life would change if you practiced walking out these teachings more in your day.- Fruits of the Spirit:(love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control)Have you noticed the Fruits are mainly feeling and action words? Let these words guide you in creating and receiving more from God in your day-to-day life.- Tune into God's Presence:Ask yourself where God is in the present moment. Act on your sense of His guidance and recognize your authority in decision-making.
Listen today to feel yourself get closer to Jesus as you experience growth that goes beyond the surface, guided by the love of a caring God who made you to be YOU.

22 - Navigating The Negative For Growth, Truth, And Better Results

In this episode, Annaliese and Alan talk through how it feels to handle negative feelings and life's problems. Annaliese sheds light on the idea that while your instinct might be to minimize or avoid negativity, if you acknowledge and learn from it in the moment, it paves the way for being your true self and moving forward in the direction you want.
What You'll Discover:
Why Not Minimizing Negative Feelings?Jumping to downplay negative feelings instead of actually feeling them can stop you from learning and pivoting like you'd want to in the moment.
Know Your Distractions:Understanding your go-to distractions or coping mechanisms (like grabbing a snack, binge-watching TV shows, or scrolling on your phone) helps empower you to make different, more constructive choices.
Normalizing Negative Experiences:Negative experiences in life aren't necessarily red flags; instead, they are normal milestones that provide valuable information for your decision-making and personal growth.
The Power of Self-Reflection:Listening to your own thoughts is a crucial aspect of navigating negativity better. It's your gateway to the truth about your experience, and helps you handle it in a healthier way.
Practical Resources:
Discovery Chat: This is free for you! You can bring your goals, desires, or situations to the table with Annaliese. This no-strings-attached call provides practical insights to help you achieve better results, whether or not you choose to work with her.
Reasons You Might Be Minimizing The Negative:
"I don't want this to be a big deal."
"I don't want to dwell or get consumed by this."
"What if I don't have what I need to handle it?"
What Helps You Interact With Negativity Better:
Notice unhelpful patterns in how you're handling negativity.
Avoid minimizing, numbing, or escaping, as these actions reinforce discomfort for you and make you feel less capable.
Choose a new feeling you'd rather have in dealing with negativity ("capable" or "in charge" is a great start here).
Identify the empowering thoughts you'd rather think that you can repeat to yourself in negative moments.
2 Questions To Get The Best Out Of Negativity:
"How can I get information that's helpful to me here?"
"How can I get more emotional and practical support for myself here?"
Gain some practical ways to navigate negative experiences for your own personal growth, truth, and better results. Annaliese and Alan provide a down-to-earth exploration of these concepts, offering relatable strategies to empower you in your journey. Remember, facing negativity head-on is how you live a more meaningful and purposeful life.

21 - Managing Your Anxiety Better (Even While You’re In It)

Annaliese and Alan dig into the everyday challenges of living with anxiety, sharing insights that have helped them and others in handling anxious thoughts. As Annaliese experiences anxiety during this episode, she walks you through her real-time strategies for catching it, managing it, and staying empowered while you handle it for yourself differently.
You'll Hear About:
Little Choices of Power: Practice making small choices throughout your day to think about yourself in ways that reinforce your capability. Feel yourself pick to steer away from the feeling of helplessness and toward the feeling of confidence even while you're feeling anxiety.
Shifting Focus to the Positive: Notice how anxiety grows when your attention is on the negative. Annaliese and Alan discuss redirecting your attention from what's not working to what IS, effectively helping what's positive gain power over anxiety.
Speaking Truths to Soothe Anxiety: Increase your awareness of your own anxiety triggers and discover the power of speaking helpful truths to yourself. Annaliese emphasizes your capability to approach things differently when you base your actions on what you know is true.
Embracing Imperfections with Peace: Embrace the expectation that anxiety and negative feelings are part of life. Annaliese and Alan discuss how accepting these moments brings peace and a genuine sense of your own capability, even in imperfect, challenging circumstances.
Resources:
www.linktree.com/coachannaliese - Ready to handle anxiety the ways you want to? Grab your free 60-minute Discovery Chat with Annaliese for insights and tools to use in your own personal situation!
Effective Anxiety Management:Acknowledge that a helpful goal for anxiety is not to eliminate it but to feel more capable in handling it. Approach your anxiety one step at a time, focusing on empowering yourself. As you practice, notice how your anxiety feels less intense and lasts a shorter time.
Affirmations:
"I can handle this better than I think I can."
"I'm more capable than I've thought before."
"I'm more in charge."
"I have something I can use to help myself right now."
"I'm allowed to struggle AND handle this better."
Steps to Manage Anxiety Better:
Shift Your Self-Concept: Move from feeling helpless to being in charge. Annaliese encourages you to remind yourself of your ability to help yourself and to use resources you already have.
Reframe Your Anxiety Story: Interrupt and reframe the narrative. Change the rules in your thoughts to showcase how capable you are and how you can benefit yourself in the moment.
Spiritual Application: Notice where God has given you truth promises in Bible verses that you can take action on in new ways. Even if you don’t know how you can get more “peace that passes understanding”, He said He gave you access to it. You can practice letting go of pressure and take hold of that peace, as many times as you need through your day.
Tune in for a deeply personal conversation on navigating anxiety and empowering yourself through practical steps.

20 - Judge Yourself Less And Stay Present (Use Your Micromoments)

Annaliese and Alan talk about how to help yourself stay present and embrace daily challenges and frustrations as you try to live intentionally. Annaliese shows you the significance of micromoments, those tiny pockets of time scattered throughout your day, and how you can use them to choose more acceptance and gain the peace you need.
What You'll Discover:
Impact of Focused Moments on Growth: Learn how even the smallest shifts in your focus during these micromoments can significantly impact your personal growth.
Riding the Highs and Lows: How you can accept the reality that life is a mix of highs and lows. By allowing yourself to experience both, you'll find greater support and emotional well-being inside of you.
Reevaluating Your Goals: Explore the connection between your emotions and the goals you set for yourself. Are they serving you, or are they working against you in the process?
Breaking the All-or-Nothing Cycle: Ways you can break the cycle of judging your life as either all good or all bad. You'll see how this mindset limits your connection to your journey and true self. Recognize unhelpful goals and make the necessary adjustments.
Navigating Setbacks: Understand that setbacks and challenges are natural parts of life. You're not a failure for experiencing them! Embrace your conscious choice (and authority) to accept these moments as they come.
Resources:
Link to Free 60-minute Discovery Chat: Grab your free session with Annaliese for support and insights for your exact situation.
Practical Steps:
Practicing Using Your Micromoments:Focus on being present, 30 seconds at a time.
Allow yourself to really feel whatever is happening in this 30 seconds (inside and outside you).
Release that instinct you might feel to judge yourself or the situation.
Know that as you practice this refocus (being present and accepting), it's building stronger self-beliefs inside you.
Acknowledge your win for practicing being present without judgment.
5 Things Practicing Your Micromoments Gives You:Authenticity, confidence, and intentionality in simple ways.
An anchoring sense of being your true self.
Ownership of your decisions and choices.
Invitation to slow down and savor the present moment.
A deep sense of accomplishment by being your true self.
Listen today to feel guided toward a more authentic (way less judgement) and more intentional life you want, by you choosing to be in one micromoment at a time.