Wake Your Dream

32 - Your Child Self And Self-Compassion: Being Your Whole Self

In this episode, Annaliese and Alan explore how much impact childhood experiences have on shaping our adult identities and the ways we think about ourselves and our lives. You'll Hear About:
-Understanding Your Inner Narrative: Explore the stories from your past that influence how you currently think and behave. Recognizing which stories come from your child self can help you better navigate feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.
-Managing Insecurity and Anxiety: Learn to identify when your inner child is feeling overwhelmed and overly responsible. Allow your adult self to step in to remind and reassure you of your capabilities and resources.
-Connecting with Your Whole Self: Notice the emotions and perspectives of both your younger self and adult self. Understanding what your inner child needs in the moment can help you practice self-compassion and authenticity. This connecting helps you deepen your sense of understanding and accepting your whole self more.
-Consciously Choosing Your Responses: Take control of how you respond to situations by consciously choosing your thoughts and feelings. By reminding yourself you have a choice over what you're focusing on, you can choose to focus on your capabilities. Doing that helps you empower your adult self to take the lead in managing challenges.
 
Parenting Yourself Practice:
1. Relate to Yourself:Focus on building a more nurturing relationship with yourself. By acknowledging and understanding different parts of yourself, you can provide support and stability when you encounter your own challenges or needs.
2. Develop Self-Awareness:Your relationship with yourself is crucial for personal growth and achieving goals. By learning to recognize how your inner child feels and thinks, you can build trust and confidence in your abilities, empowering yourself to navigate life's complexities with maturity and resilience.
3. Embrace Your Dual Roles:In your relationship with yourself, you embody both the parent and the child. When your inner child feels fearful or uncertain, let your adult self provide comfort and reassurance. Remind yourself that it's normal to feel scared, but act more from trust that you have the wisdom and capability to guide yourself towards safety and moving forward.Listen today for more encouragement in how to strengthen your confidence and love for yourself!
Your Free Resource:
Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your free, 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese! We'll spend the first 20-30 minutes with you sharing about your life, story, and situation, followed by 30 minutes of Annaliese leading you through personalized coaching. Experience coaching with Annaliese yourself so you can see if it can help you make the changes you want!
 

31 - Why Blame Doesn't Help: How To Handle Hurts & Setbacks Better

Annaliese and Alan delve into the relatable but unhelpful patterns of blame, uncovering why we do it and how it ultimately fails to provide the relief we're looking for. Blaming at first can feel like we're asserting power, but in reality, it strips away our choices and control. Annaliese highlights the importance of understanding our emotions and motivations, steering away from actions of blame towards actions of self-support and healing.
You'll hear these highlights and more:
You don't get resolution through blame, instead seek how to comfort and heal yourself versus assigning fault.
How to recognize in yourself the urge to blame and its underlying motivations.
How to harness your emotions as signals for self-awareness and growth.
Distinguishing between blame and responsibility, emphasizing growing your own empowerment through taking accountability.
Noticing ahead of time the damaging effects of blame on personal growth and well-being.
Ways To Help Yourself (Instead of Blaming):
Embrace your emotions as guideposts towards self-care (they show you what you need!).
Identify your needs and provide yourself support as you go.
Release the pressure to assign blame, choosing instead more constructive responses.
Cultivate for yourself a mindset of taking personal responsibility and being open to growth.
Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your free, 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese! We'll spend the first 20-30 minutes as you share about your life, story, and situation, followed by 30 minutes of personalized coaching. This chat is where you can experience coaching with Annaliese to determine if it aligns with your goals. 
Listen in today to get practical insights and actionable steps as you navigate hurtful and frustrating situations with more grace and self-compassion.

30 - The Goal Of Growth Isn't To Fix You, It's To Empower You

Annaliese and Alan dive into the sometimes frustrating journey of personal growth, inviting you to reflect on your own ups and downs, and see your experiences with new insights. Here's some of what you'll discover as you listen:
Exploring Growth as a Process:- Reflect on how your personal growth journey is actualyl like you having a toolbox filled with practices you can do daily, and helpful insights to remind yourself of.- You'll hear how to embrace growth more as a series of practices, insights, and decisions rather than a final destination.
Recognizing the Benefits of Growth:- Consider how each action you take in pursuit of growth contributes to your overall development and how capable you feel to handle your life.- You'll gain insight being reminded of the genuine impact of consistent effort throughout and along your journey.
Navigating Frustration:- The strategy of practicing embracing the slow and repetitive nature of growth is calming and rebalancing.- Repeating more positive thoughts in response to negative ones helps you reframe setbacks as opportunities so you can develop even further.
Empowering Yourself To Grow:- Reflect and own that struggling with growth doesn't disqualify you from the progress you've been making. You're already growing!- Consider the choice you have (always available to you) to adopt a more beneficial perspective towards your own growth journey (not a defeating perspective).
Resources:- Be sure to check out the www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to connect with Annaliese for your free coaching session, where you'll get tips and feel truly heard as you explore your options in your life situation.-Practice "Collecting Positive Evidence" Daily:
"Collect positive evidence" is a tool where you notice and celebrate what's working in your life (instead of staying focused on what's not working).
Picture it as a tool you can pick up each morning, like grabbing your keys.
Use it throughout your day, especially during negative moments you notice you're in.
Make practicing it your goal, allowing yourself to strengthen the muscle and improve over time and not get stuck needing immediate results
Want to cultivate a more positive mindset and really fuel your personal growth journey?
Join Annaliese and Alan as they guide you through the complexities of personal growth, encouraging self-reflection and offering practical insights along the way.

29 - How To Stop Stereotyping Your Marriage

Annaliese and Alan discuss the importance of nurturing your marriage beyond society's stereotypes (and stereotypes you might have in your own mind), emphasizing that when you personalize and get more intentional about your actions, it strengthens the bond between you and your partner.You’ll Hear About:-Don't Outsource Solutions:Instead of turning to quick fixes from friends or the internet, Annaliese and Alan suggest digging deeper into the unique dynamics of your relationship. Those oversimplified solutions can miss the mark, and leave you feeling more disconnected than ever.-Embracing Growth Together:There's alot of strength and beauty in growing and learning alongside your partner. Embracing growing together as a journey can strengthens the bond between you and your partner, even during the toughest times.-Authenticity in Marriage:Annaliese and Alan show you the liberating feeling of being your true self within your marriage. As you shed more of society's expectations, you can create a safe space for vulnerability and growth in your marriage and give your partner an inviting model to do that themselves too. Ultimately being your true self can lead you to a deeper connection together.-Practical Tips: From navigating conflicts to expressing needs kindly, the hosts offer down-to-earth advice for nurturing your relationship. Drawing from their own experiences and coaching expertise, they provide actionable steps to help listeners build a stronger, more fulfilling partnership.
Resources:- Free Discovery Chat with Annaliese: Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule a free 60-minute Zoom or phone call with Annaliese. This relaxed chat is your chance to get personalized support and guidance tailored to your unique situation. Whether you're facing challenges or simply seeking clarity, Annaliese will help you navigate life with better tools.
Tips to Treat Your Marriage Better:-Clear Communication:Open, honest communication is so crucial in nurturing a healthy relationship. Help yourself express your needs kindly, even in the midst of disagreements.-Address Issues Promptly: Annaliese and Alan discuss the significance of addressing issues in real-time rather than letting them pile up and fester over time. You can tackle more relational challenges head-on thatn you think, and doing this more regularly fosters a stronger, more resilient bond with your partner.
Ways to Relate, Not Stereotype:1. Ask Your Partner How You Can Help: Invite your partner into an open conversation. Ask them to share what actions you've been doing that are helpful or unhelpful. Don't see this as a To-Do list, but instead gathering info from each other and growing your understanding.2. Invite Your Partner Into Your Story: Learn to recognize and share the thoughts and assumptions shaping your interactions with your partner. Annaliese and Alan offer practical tips for creating a safe space for vulnerability and honesty.3. Take Your Relationship Temperature: Regularly check in with yourself to uncover what you've been thinking and feeling about your marriage. This is for maintenance and care of your marriage, and helps you stay engaged and notice things you might need to be communicating to your partner too!Can't wait to have you step in and listen for nuggets you connect with and might want to act on in your relationship too!

28 - Asking Questions To Get Unstuck

In This Episode:Annaliese and Alan dive deep into the transformative power of asking questions to gain more confidence in understanding and navigating your life situations and making better decisions, personally, professionally, and relationally.
Unveiling Assumptions: We explore the idea that sometimes we get stuck because our minds are operating on assumptions that might not be accurate. By asking questions, you can unravel these assumptions and gain clarity on your thoughts, setting the stage for self-awareness that feels more authentic and helpful to you.
The Power of Curiosity: Asking powerful questions not only empowers you but also makes you feel seen and known, even by yourself. It opens up all kinds of possibilities beyond what you first thought, and helps you grow in curiosity that can lead you to better ideas and decisions.
Navigating Interactions: You'll hear the importance of questioning your own assumptions before engaging with a person or situation. By anticipating your assumptions, you gain more control over your reactions and emotions, paving the way for more intentional and mindful interactions that you want.
Decisiveness Through Inquiry: Questions aren't just tools for self-reflection; they're instrumental in helping you make better-feeling decisions. They provide you mental space to explore ideas and relieve the feeling of being stuck or desperate. You'll ultimately feel your confidence and effectiveness boosted in being your true self more.
Practical Tools 
Ask Yourself:
"What assumptions am I already making here?"
"What am I assuming I'll feel in this situation?"
"What could I do to contribute to the outcome I'd rather have?"
The Transformative Impact: Why do questions hold so much power? They help you trust yourself more, move from stuck to curiosity, and embrace uncertainty with openness. Knowing what you think becomes a powerful tool for building confidence and feeling emotionally steady!
Listen in to feel supported today - empowering yourself more begins with a simple question.

27 - Facing Your Weaknesses Empowers You

In This Episode:Join Annaliese and Alan in this enlightening episode as they delve into the challenges and unexpected advantages of facing your weaknesses head-on. Annaliese emphasizes the transformative power of self-compassion on the journey of personal growth, highlighting the profound impact it can have on your life.
You'll Hear About:-Understanding Your Weakness:Annaliese encourages you to slow down and truly understand your weaknesses. Instead of avoiding or feeling guilty about them, she suggests that you can embrace self-compassion as a game-changer.
-More Choices:By not running away from weaknesses, you suddenly open up a world of choices. Acknowledging and accepting your weaknesses allows you to make decisions from a place of authenticity and self-awareness.
-Balancing Strengths and Weaknesses: It's not just about improving or eliminating weaknesses. You'll explore the concept of leaning into your strengths and using them to support yourself better to address the weaknesses you've identified.
Practical Steps and Resources:-Use www.linktree.com/coachannaliese for your free 60-minute Zoom or phone call. You'll get an open, casual conversation with Annaliese to help you strategize your current life challenges.
-Questions to Help You Face Your Weaknesses:  - Are my thoughts about my weaknesses constructive?  - Am I embracing my true self, both strengths and weaknesses?  - Am I basing my thoughts about this weakness on my own values, not others' opinions?
-Practice to Face Your Weaknesses:  - Pause, drop into your body, and explore your thoughts and feelings about your weakness.  - Acknowledge the urge you might have to run away, and then empower and support yourself by choosing to face it.  - Tune into your real experience inside to determine if it's a true weakness or influenced by others' opinions.
-Choices You Have When You're Facing Weakness:  1. Use it as an opportunity to grow.  2. Accept yourself on a deeper level.  3. Do the necessary work.  4. Remind yourself of your true identity and aspirations.
Empower yourself today by listening in to engage with your weaknesses and unlocking your path to better results in your life!

26 - Better Ways To Keep Your Commitments And Live Intentionally

Annaliese and Alan delve into the experience of making and following through on commitments, and the essential role your thoughts and actions play in staying true to them. Annaliese emphasizes that your daily routines either help you engage with or avoid your commitment journey.
Key Things You'll Hear:
1. Emotional Awareness in Commitments:Annaliese highlights the impact of emotions on you following through on your commitments. Negative feelings can slow down and block your follow-through, but connecting to hopeful thoughts about your commitment can be a game-changer.
2. Aligning Actions with True Desires:Explore how acting in alignment with your commitments brings a sense of flow, joy, and satisfaction. Recognize that supporting your commitments is actually supporting your true self.
3. Overcoming Mental Blocks:Acknowledge and challenge the thoughts you have that block your commitment progress. Avoid the all-or-nothing mindset that slows you down, and practice engaging with your commitments in steps to help you stay with your progress.
4. Living Authentically and Intentionally:Connect the dots and show yourself how when you fulfill your commitment you're living more authentically. Each step toward your commitment contributes to truly being yourself.
5. Self-Leadership Reflection:Evaluate the leadership style you use in your commitment journey. Replace harsh self-talk with kindness and support to positively transform your engagement with your commitments.
Resources:
-Connect with Annaliese for your free 60-minute Zoom or phone call at www.linktree.com/coachannaliese. You'll get personalized encouragement and get to strategize your current challenges, while asking her any questions you have about where life coaching can bring you.
How To Stop All-Or-Nothing Thinking:    -Focus on and collect the tiniest steps you've made toward your commitment. Count any progress you've made.    -Take charge of your thoughts by picking thoughts to think that make you feel more connected to your progress and journey. It's your best strategy to overcome avoidance in the moment.Best Questions To Help You Choose Engagement (not Avoidance):
1. Who do I want to be right now?2. What direction do I want to move right now?
Join the conversation to empower yourself and help your commitment journey feel so much better!

25 - Daily, Practical Ways To Stop People-Pleasing

In This Episode:Annaliese and Alan explore practical ways to people-please less and experience genuine change in your daily life. Annaliese emphasizes the importance of prioritizing self-care and understanding that people-pleasing doesn't serve you. It's time to care for yourself just as much as you care for others.You'll Hear About:- The key to people-pleasing less is to notice you have a choice of how to act. Start replacing unhelpful thoughts and actions with ones that better support you and what you need too. - Embrace the idea that the goal isn't to completely stop but to help yourself gradually decrease, allowing you to catch and choose your responses more freely. - Shifting your mindset away from feeling obligated to please others and more toward seeing that you have a choice for authenticness in your own life is crucial. Resources: Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese for your free 60-minute Zoom or phone call with Annaliese. Engage in an open, casual conversation where you can bring up your questions about life coaching, and let Annaliese help you strategize your current life challenges. No strings, you might only need this call!Ask yourself empowering questions to stop people-pleasing:
"What would it take for me to stop?" – Create space to reflect and identify opportunities for different choices.
"Why do I start people-pleasing? What am I feeling?" – Uncover the real reasons behind your choices and identify your unmet needs so you can better support yourself.
"What do I really value here? How can I show up authentically while supporting my values?" – Explore meaningful ways to align your actions with your true values instead of just continuing to people-please.
Practical Ways To Stop People-Pleasing:
Practice self-awareness and take charge: Be the decision-maker by examining your thoughts and the situations that trigger your people-pleasing actions.
Identify your real values: Consider if your people-pleasing aligns with and satisfies your values, and explore healthier, more effective ways to be loving and caring to others.
Tune in and care for yourself: Prioritize self-care as a first step during uncomfortable moments. When you support yourself this way, instead of making decisions out of discomfort, you'll feel more free to make decisions that align with your well-being.
Set boundaries in relationships: Empower yourself and others by establishing healthy boundaries that contribute to the well-being of both of you.
Be willing to disappoint others: Practice being more okay with disappointing others when it means living authentically from your values. You'd want this authenticity for them, so remind yourself why this is so important for you too.
Join Annaliese and Alan as they talk about ways to have a more authentic and fulfilling life. Use this opportunity to make lasting changes for yourself with less people-pleasing stress!

24 - People-Pleasing: Why You Do It And How To Do It Less

In This Episode:Annaliese and Alan unpack the common habit of people-pleasing, something so many of us do without realizing it. Annaliese highlights that even though we don't notice it sometimes, recognizing when we fall into this pattern and understanding its impact can guide us towards living more authentically and get better results personally, professionally, and socially.
You’ll Hear About:- Unconscious Merging: People-pleasing shows up when we blend in with others without thinking, putting a strain on our connections because we're losing ourselves. By recognizing when we're doing it and how it feels when we do, we can start choosing to be our true selves more.
- Awareness of Your Actions and Feelings: Paying attention to how we act when we're people-pleasing and the feelings that come with it is a game-changer. This awareness gives you the power to make different choices, steering away from fake interactions and towards more genuine connections based on who you really are, and who they really are too.
- Not Actually Helpful: Contrary to what we might think, people-pleasing doesn't actually help others because it's not real! It's making guesses about what others want without actually knowing.
- Not Feeling Like Enough: If you ever feel like you're just not measuring up, notice what you're basing that on. It's usually a sign of people-pleasing. Choosing to reevaluate how you make decisions and focusing on what truly matters to you can help you break free from this cycle.
Resources:- www.linktree.com/coachannaliese: Have a laid-back chat with Annaliese for free. This easygoing conversation will give you valuable insights and help you figure things to get more of the results you want in your life. No obligations. You might only need this one call! Encourage yourself to live authentically.
- WHY DO WE PEOPLE-PLEASE?  - Solve problems, troubleshoot, protect ourselves, prepare  - Want to help, avoid upsetting others, fit in, and feel a sense of belonging  - It just feels normal and we think it keeps things calm.
- WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE?  - Consistently downplaying yourself and putting others first based on assuming what they're thinking.  - Denying yourself the freedom to choose your own path and use your own voice (something you'd encourage for others).
- HOW TO STOP PEOPLE-PLEASING:  - Question it. Break the cycle by asking yourself:      - Am I treating myself as well as I treat others?      - Am I taking charge of my life or letting others dictate it?      - Am I staying true to my values and letting myself be genuine with others?      - Am I excluding or disqualifying myself by always people-pleasing?      - Remind yourself: "I’m not actually keeping the peace if there’s no peace inside of me."

23 -Your Christian Faith: A Relationship And Foundation For Personal Growth

Join Annaliese and Alan in a down-to-earth conversation about the powerful role Christian faith plays as a foundation and anchor in our everyday lives. Annaliese opens up about her personal journey, navigating the ups and downs with God and life. This episode explores practical ways to integrate faith more naturally in your day as you let it shape your priorities, habits, and goals.
Key Takeaways:
Unpacking Faith in Daily Life: Reflect on what faith truly means for you and notice how it subtly influences your thoughts and actions each day. Your spiritual beliefs have a more significant impact than you might realize.
Inner Stability and Purpose: Personal growth is pretty demanding work that asks you to have a sturdy foundation and a sense of purpose. Annaliese believes that God, in His unconditionally loving and empowering nature, is the compass guiding you from the inside to be your true self.
Practical Truths for Empowerment: Discover the practical and empowering truths rooted in seeing yourself with God's unwavering love. Take a moment to evaluate if your own daily actions align with the importance you want your faith to have.
Renewed Minds and Practical Living: God's promises aren't just lofty ideals—they're meant to be lived out in your day-to-day! Embrace the process of renewing your mind and let God's promises help you think better thoughts and guide your decisions in the nitty-gritty of real life.
Resources:
www.calendly.com/coachwithannaliese/discovery  - Connect with Annaliese for your free 60-minute Zoom or phone call (you pick!). This is an open, casual conversation where you bring up your questions about life coaching and have Annaliese help you strategize what you're going through right now in your life. It will help you practically live more like you want to!
Practically Discover Your Own Faith:
Defining Your Faith: Take a moment to articulate what faith means to you and visualize how it can manifest in your daily life.
Discovering Your Purpose: Explore the fact that God designed you for a unique purpose. Your potential is intricately tied to just being more fully your true self.
Engaging with God More Daily: Deepen your relationship by defining who God is to you. Use Bible verses that draw you closer to Him, not ones that push you further away. Let yourself ask Him questions, and even wrestle and struggle with Him as you need to. He invites you to be this honest and close with Him.
Evaluate Your Actions and Choices: If faith is essential to you, take a look at how your daily actions reflect its importance. Are you allowing it to shape your decisions and pace?
Practically Live Out Your Own Faith More:
- Casual Conversations with God:Drop the weight of expectations that come from other people, the past, and your own self, and practice talking openly and honestly with God throughout your whole day.- Invite God into Decisions: Base your choices on a sense of deep peace rather than fearfulness by slowing down in the moment, inviting God to talk to you, and listening for His guidance underneath the choice. Then trust yourself to take action on where you notice the peace coming from.- Walk Out Bible Verses: Notice actionable words from Bible verses that are meaningful to you. Imagine how your life would change if you practiced walking out these teachings more in your day.- Fruits of the Spirit:(love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control)Have you noticed the Fruits are mainly feeling and action words? Let these words guide you in creating and receiving more from God in your day-to-day life.- Tune into God's Presence:Ask yourself where God is in the present moment. Act on your sense of His guidance and recognize your authority in decision-making.
Listen today to feel yourself get closer to Jesus as you experience growth that goes beyond the surface, guided by the love of a caring God who made you to be YOU.