Wake Your Dream

72 - Feelings Tour Part 1: Feeling Your Feelings

In this episode, Annaliese and Alan dig into the transformative yet often uncomfortable process of feeling your feelings. Annaliese highlights how becoming emotionally self-aware improves your life in meaningful ways, and that you're capable of slowing down, sitting with your emotions, and learning to notice and name them.
You’ll Hear About:
How emotions act as signals, pointing to what you might not be seeing clearly in your life. Feeling them starts with being willing to “be in the room” with them.
Why describing for yourself the physical sensations connected to emotions might seem small, but is a grounding step that helps you normalize and trust your new practice of feeling your feelings.
The consequences of ignoring your emotions—they don’t disappear but grow louder and more disruptive until you address them.
How to Feel Your Feelings:
Give yourself permission. Even if it’s scary or uncertain, allow yourself to feel—it’s a vital part of emotional health.
Trust the process. You don’t need to understand or fix anything right away. This is not about your brain making sense of things."Feeling your feelings" is only about letting your body and spirit tell you what they need to.
Hold it loosely. Feeling your emotions doesn’t mean solving them. Sit with them, notice what they’re showing you, and let them speak.
Engage gradually and daily. It's helpful to picture a faucet where you can adjust the flow of feelings or let them wash over you, knowing you’re capable of processing them. Practice exercising yourself emotionally more regularly this way so you can grow with small, daily steps. 
Why It’s Worth It: Feeling your feelings is what helps you to better understand your experiences, live with clarity, and align your life more authentically. It's a practice that's most effective when you try it daily. Embracing this experience more helps you connect more deeply with yourself and have a more meaningful life. READY FOR CHANGE? Schedule your own free Discovery Coaching Chat with Annaliese at www.linktree.com/coachannaliese where you'll get confidential and customized tips and insight from Annaliese for results you'd like to see. No strings!Listen in today to grow and feel more capable to feel your feelings.

71 - Building Your Own Growth Process

In this episode, Annaliese and Alan explore how to build a personal growth process that keeps you engaged every day, not just when motivation is high. Annaliese shares how seeing growth as a journey instead of an arrival can help you stay committed and supported along the way.
You’ll Hear About:
Internal vs. External Growth Goals: Shift your focus from chasing outcomes to prioritizing deeper, more authentic daily experiences. Growth isn’t about checking off a list but realigning your time and energy to be more who you want to be.
Normalizing Setbacks: Growth includes forward steps and steps back. Expecting both helps you work with reality instead of against it, keeping you grounded in progress.
Healthy Habits for Motivation: Evaluate whether your routines support you or pressure you. Growth thrives when your habits work with you, not against you!
Permission to Slow Down: Every growth path you could try begins with giving yourself permission to pause, reflect, and start small.
How to Move Toward Growth:
Give Yourself Permission: Start by practicing a new mindset - that it’s okay to try something new.
Identify Blocks: Pay attention to the obstacles you're running into—internal beliefs like “I can’t” or external situations like lack of time. Remind yourself how much your growth matters to you.
Set a Feeling-Based Intention: Choose the feeling you want to experience more each day and adjust your priorities to support creating more of those experiences.
Simplify Your Steps: Small, practical actions like reading between tasks, taking a nap, or scheduling a walk can help you stay aligned with your growth goals - just remember to keep the steps accessible and small so you can experience yourself growing more frequently.
How to Build a Growth Process:
Tune In Daily: Ask what would help you feel most like yourself today—what supports flow, balance, or healing?
Choose a Rhythm: Let your practice emerge naturally, not as a checklist but as intentional moments you create and allow that meet your needs.
Be Flexible: Some days might call for quiet reflection, some days might benefit from a long walk, some days could use some creative expression, or even catching up on simple household tasks. Let yourself call the shots depending on what you notice you need in the moment.
Your Free Coaching Call:
Ready to take action on your growth? Schedule a FREE 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese at www.linktree.com/coachannaliese and experience personalized coaching to help you move forward.Hoping you listen in today if you could use a boost and some belief in creating a better growth process that truly works for you!

70 - How Do You Handle Life Transitions?

In this episode, Annaliese and Alan talk about navigating life’s tricky transitions—those times when moving, health challenges, or loved ones’ changes upend your routine. Transitions can feel overwhelming, but there are practical ways to manage the weight and complexity while staying grounded.
You’ll Hear About:
How transitions happen both externally and internally, reshaping our lives and our sense of self. Reflecting on past changes can remind you of your ability to adapt and grow.
Why reframing transitions as “normal” instead of “problems” can ease your experience. Seeing change as part of life helps create inner stability.
How to recognize the thoughts you have during transitions. Do they remind you of your strengths or weigh you down with doubt? Helpful thoughts make all the difference.
FREE Coaching Call:Curious about how coaching with Annaliese could help you? Schedule your own FREE, no strings just value, 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese at linktree.com/coachannaliese. Share your own experience that you're dealing with, and get personalized tips for the life changes you want.
A Step-by-Step Approach to Navigating Transitions:
Notice your thoughts about the transition:
Are you framing it as a threat or an opportunity?
Recognize that how you view the situation affects your choices, feelings, and actions.
Remind yourself of past transitions:
Say, “I’ve done this before. I’ve dealt with change and taken helpful actions.”
Reframe the transition:
See it as an invitation to zoom out, reflect on your capabilities, and focus on your strengths.
Practice focusing on what you have and what you can do:
Ask yourself, “What’s one thing I can do today to move forward?”
Remember, your next step doesn’t have to fix everything—just keep moving one day at a time.
Transitions are inevitable, but these steps can help you handle them with clarity and confidence. Listen in today to hear more!

69 - Practical Gratitude

In this episode, Annaliese and Alan explore how to practice gratitude in ways that feel genuine, helpful, and realistic—without turning it into just another “should.” Annaliese explains how gratitude can transform your perspective, especially during stress or struggle, by opening you up to see more of what’s already present in your life.
YOU'LL HEAR ABOUT:-Making gratitude practical: Let yourself let go of the idea that gratitude needs to be idealized or perfect! Instead, discover for yourself simple, everyday ways to let gratitude more naturally flow through your life.  -Gratitude and honesty coexist: Practicing gratitude doesn’t mean avoiding hard truths or pushing down difficult emotions. It’s not about “fixing” life’s struggles but creating a more soul-soothing experience for you in the middle of what you're going through.  -Shifting focus in negative moments: When life feels overwhelming or you feel like you're lacking, gratitude can gently remind you of what’s already there in front of you to support you.  
HOW GRATITUDE HELPS YOU: - Broadens your perspective, showing you the tools and capacity you already have.  - Helps you accept and allow your reality and let go of control.  - Opens the door to joy, allowing you to navigate challenges with more lightness, creativity, and resilience.  
WHEN TO PRACTICE GRATITUDE:-Any time your perspective feels narrow or stuck-Any time you're feeling things like fear, anxiety, overwhelm, aimlessness, or laziness
SIMPLE GRATITUDE PRACTICE: -Pause and close your eyes-Say, “I’m grateful...”  -Let the feeling of gratitude wash over you-Notice what you're focusing on that made it come to mind.  
YOUR FREE COACHING CALLBook a free one-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese at www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to experience some coaching for yourself and see how it can help you right where you are!You'll feel more engaged with yourself, see the bigger picture of your life, and notice more clearly what you have as you listen in today!

68 - Why Daily Reflection Is Powerful

In this episode, Annaliese and Alan explore how life-changing the habit of daily reflection is, especially for those who are always on the go. Annaliese shares how taking just a few minutes to reflect each day helps you recognize key insights from your experiences, decisions, and your overall quality of life. Slowing down lets you notice patterns and ultimately empowers you to make intentional changes that align with the life you truly want.
You’ll Hear About- How skipping reflection means you might miss important information about your daily experience, limiting your ability to make positive changes.- While taking time to reflect can feel challenging, spending even 5-10 minutes asking, “Why did I react this way?” or “What was I feeling?” brings you valuable clarity.- Reflection often surprises you, revealing both the highs and lows in your life. Facing these truths head-on enables you to spot patterns and make adjustments to enjoy life more fully.
Benefits & Impact of Daily Reflection:- Shows you behaviors and reactions that could be holding you back- Helps you see both helpful and unhelpful decision-making patterns- Reveals influences that are shaping your day- Helps you choose more supportive actions for yourself- Uncovers beliefs that might no longer serve you- Invites you into a sense of presence, not just auto-pilot- Builds a sense of control and empowerment in your life
Ways to Practice Reflection:- Start small, with a 5-10 minute session each morning or evening- Slow down and tune into different parts of yourself, like:   1. Your feelings   2. Thought patterns   3. Actions   4. Interactions with others   5. Things you’re avoiding- Focus on one area at a time, asking questions like, “What emotions did I feel today?” or “What threw me off?”- Remember, some days you'll gain big insights, while others feel more routine to you. Trust the process—daily reflection is a habit that reveals more over time as you go!
YOUR FREE COACHING CHAT WITH ANNALIESE- Ready to experience coaching with Annaliese? Visit linktree.com/coachannaliese to book a free 1-hour Discovery Chat with her and get some great tips to start making a real change at home, in relationships, or at work!Listen in to learn simple, impactful ways you can make reflection work for you today!

67 - Ugly Truth or Beautiful Lie?

In this episode, Annaliese and Alan dive into the “beautiful lie” versus the “ugly truth”—why we often choose a comforting delusion over a hard reality, and how facing the truth can drive real growth. Annaliese explains that sometimes, the truth you most need is the one you’re avoiding. But learning to face it, even when it feels uncomfortable, is key to navigating life’s challenges with the resilience you want.
YOU'LL HEAR ABOUT:
-Why We Avoid the Truth: Choosing a beautiful lie may seem easier, but it tends to distance you from the information you need to make meaningful changes. Facing the ugly truth actually can help reduce stress and get you back on track.
-Truth Feels Hard Because of Emotions: The truth often feels abrasive because it brings up things you don’t want to face. But recognizing it offers you a deeper relief because you gain insight to make empowered decisions.
-Repeating Patterns by Avoiding Reality: Believing “everything’s fine” can lead you into cycles of burnout and frustration. Facing the ugly truth breaks that cycle inside you, showing you how to make real changes.
 -Value of Facing Mistakes: Owning mistakes proves you’re capable of handling life’s ups and downs. It lets you redefine yourself based on truth rather than denial.
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Benefits of Facing the Ugly Truth:
- True empowerment and growth- Increased confidence and self-trust- Proving to yourself it’s not as painful as you feared- Gaining valuable insight to make real, lasting changesLooking for your own practical ways that could help you truly face what's going on in your life more? Can't wait to have you listen in with us.

66 - Be Patient, You Have Plenty Of Time

In this episode, Annaliese and Alan talk about what it feels like to grow personally and how it often takes more time than we expect. Annaliese highlights the importance of practicing patience and recognizing the person you're becoming along the way. Meaningful growth takes time, and it's important to remind yourself that you have that time to give!
You'll learn that:- Growth, like anything beneficial, takes time to build. Remembering this helps you practice patience and stay on track like you want to.- Personal growth happens through small, consistent steps. While it may take longer than you'd like, embracing your inner development as a priority (and those small steps as valuable) helps you stay motivated and less discouraged.- It's crucial to check if you're being overly critical or unrealistic about your growth. By noticing and celebrating your progress, you cultivate the patience you need and a healthier perspective that you want on your journey.
FREE COACHING CALL: Experience a free, 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese! Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule a session where she’ll help you take real steps toward positive change in your own life!
3 Ways to Practice Patience: 1. Notice where you're uncomfortable with waiting. Where are you getting discouraged? Help yourself tolerate a little bit more the discomfort of being delayed as you go (that’s all part of real growth!).2. Identify if your own personal growth standards are working for or against you.3. Celebrate your small wins and tiny steps to stay encouraged inside yourself along the way, and feel closer to your goals and process.Listen in to help yourself practice patience with the truly valuable growth process you're practicing in your life today!

65 - Treating Yourself Like A Friend

In this episode, Annaliese and Alan explore how stress and overwhelm can affect your relationship with yourself. When things start piling up in life, it’s easy for your brain to become harsh and critical, which directly impacts how you handle stress and solve problems. Annaliese emphasizes the importance of pausing and noticing your own experience—because your self-talk is making a bigger impact than you realize.
YOU'LL HEAR ABOUT:- How your brain tends to be more critical when life gets tough, even when things are out of your control. Your thoughts, whether positive or negative, are heavily influencing how you navigate stress.  - Why making decisions from a self-compassionate, confident place actually builds self-trust and helps you treat yourself more kindly, making problem-solving smoother and more creative.  - How self-talk, the thoughts constantly running under the surface, affect your experience. The best way to shift negative thinking is to start noticing it. Check in with yourself a couple of times a day, and see what thoughts could make you feel better.
3 Steps to Treat Yourself Like a Friend:  
1. Why Practice It? Your brain can get harsh during tough times, which affects how you handle stress. Self-compassion builds self-trust, leading you problem-solving more effectively.   2. When to Practice It? Check in with yourself a couple of times a day (set an alarm on your phone!), especially during stressful moments, to catch your negative thoughts early. 3. How to Practice It? When you notice self-criticism in your mind, ask: "Would I speak this way to a friend?" Replace harsh thoughts with kinder ones.  
FREE COACHING CALL:  Experience personal coaching with Annaliese! Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your own FREE, 1-hour Discovery Chat to focus on whatever result you'd love to see in your life. No strings, just value for you!Listen in today to get helpful ways and reasons to treat yourself more like a good friend and add quality to your life!

64 - When People Don't Support You

In this episode, Annaliese and Alan discuss how much influence others have on our personal goals and self-perception. Annaliese highlights the challenges of feeling unsupported by others, how this can impact our sense of progress in life, and how to help ourselves get more of what we need, no matter how other people are showing up.
You’ll Hear About:-Noticing where you depend on others for validation: Annaliese walks you through how to recognize areas in your life where you may rely too heavily on others for support and approval, and why you might feel this way.-What lack of support makes you believe about yourself: When you don't receive the validation or support you’re hoping for, it can lead to assumptions about your own worth. Annaliese offers tips for identifying the limiting beliefs that arise in these situations.-Acknowledging that you can’t control others: It’s important to notice when others are trying to help but just miss the mark. Are you expecting too much from them? Reflect on how these expectations might be limiting your ability to meet your own needs.-Building inner awareness and self-support: Are you clearly communicating what you need from others? Can you see how you are capable of providing some of that support for yourself? Listen and you'll hear more practical advice for strengthening self-reliance.-FREE Coaching Chat: Experience coaching with Annaliese! Schedule your own personal 1-hour Discovery Chat, for any life results you want, at www.linktree.com/coachannaliese.  Questions to Ask Yourself:- What areas in my life feel dependent on others’ support?- What do I believe I’m missing without it?- What can I start doing to better support myself?
PRACTICING SELF-SUPPORT:- Notice your needs and how you can meet them independently by asking yourself reflective questions that help you see it:             -Who am I relying on to support my needs more? Have I communicated my need closely? Do I agree they can actually support me in this?             -Is this need something I can be giving to me? What need I can start meeting for myself? How can I act differently to do this better?- Use your resources—time, money, energy—more mindfully to align with what truly matters to you.- Practice self-compassion by anchoring yourself in truths you can repeat to yourself about your identity, reminding yourself you also have the power to meet your own needs.Listen in today to learn how to give yourself more the support you need, no matter your circumstances or what you experience from others.
 

63 - Enneagram Series Part 5: Energy Stances (Types 1-9)

In this episode, Annaliese and Alan wrap up their Enneagram series by diving into the three Energy Stances: Assertive, Dependent, and Withdrawing. Each Enneagram Type fits into one of these stances, which deeply influences how they navigate life, make decisions, and interact with others. Annaliese explains what it feels like to be each Type, in each stance, and how these default patterns impact and shape daily life.
YOU'LL HEAR ABOUT:- Understanding the energy behind your Enneagram Type can deepen your self-awareness and improve your growth journey. Discover how balancing your own body, mind, and heart on a more conscious basis in your day leads to wiser decisions and better interactions with others.- The Assertive Types (3, 7, 8) move forward (sometimes against others) because they tend to be focused on the future. They’re usually standing in the present with one foot, and with the other they’re always stepping forward to get what they need, even if it means they need to move against or past others. Their traits are that they usually are Overthinking + Overdoing, and neglecting their Feelings. A good way for these Assertive Types to act in more wise, proactive ways is to interrupt their moments regularly during their day to ask themselves “What am I Feeling?”. In this way these Types can invite their neglected heart (Wise Heart) into their moment of decision-making.- The Dependent Types (1, 2, 6) depend on others in order to move, because they’re focused on the present. They tend to have both feet in the present, trying to get others to work with or agree with them to get what they need. Their traits are Overdoing + Overfeeling, and neglecting their Thinking. A good way for these Dependent Types to act in more wise, proactive ways is to interrupt their moments regularly during their day to ask themselves “What am I Thinking?”. In this way these Types can invite their neglected mind (Wise Mind) into their moment of decision-making.- The Withdrawing Types (4, 5, 9) move away from others because they’re focused on the past. They tend to be standing with one foot in the present and the other foot stepping back away from people to get what they need. Their traits are Overthinking + Overfeeling, and neglecting their Doing. A good way for these Withdrawn Types to act in more wise, proactive ways is to interrupt their moments regularly during their day to ask themselves “What am I Doing?”. In this way these Types can invite their neglected body (Wise Body) into their moment of decision-making.
Free Coaching Call!Want a personalized coaching session? Book your free 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese at www.linktree.com/coachannaliese.WAYS TO USE THE ENNEAGRAM TO GROW:-Build a space of openness and safety for your own growth. All personality information (weaknesses, strengths, fears, desires) is useful to create better growth habits. Notice where you feel that sensitive or uncomfortable information is working against you or against other people, and see that it’s meant to work FOR you - we all have capacity for constructive change and growth, and your growth is your own responsibility  -Tune in to what you’re learning, even when it’s about a Type that’s not yours. There are valuable insights that Type cares about and brings to the table that can help you grow your own perspective of how life works and what more options are as you navigate it.-Let yourself practice using this tool safely and honestly inside yourself. Practice focusing on using any knowledge you uncover about yourself to benefit and grow from in simple, daily ways, not to judge yourself or tear yourself down.Listen in for how becoming aware of your natural energy impacts your experiences, relationships, and choices in life!