83 - How To Spend Time Alone

In this episode, Annaliese and Alan dive into the discomfort of being alone with your thoughts and why learning to sit with yourself—without distraction—can help you feel more connected and present in your own life. Annaliese shares how constantly filling quiet moments with tasks or distractions can actually leave you feeling more disconnected and not enough. Instead, noticing and practicing presence with your thoughts, even when it feels uncomfortable, is a game-changer for your self-trust and purpose.

You’ll Hear About:

• Owning when you avoid or distract yourself from feeling the discomfort of being present with your own thoughts—and how this helps you understand why you might feel disconnected from yourself or your life.
• What makes stillness uncomfortable is that when you slow down, you start noticing negative or limiting beliefs about yourself and your life. But this discomfort isn’t bad—it’s actually showing you where you can begin thinking more supportive thoughts and handling yourself in better-feeling ways.
• When you’re willing to notice what’s really going on underneath, you’ll experience feeling seen, understood, and supported by yourself.

Ways to Spend Time Alone:

1. Sit alone with yourself more regularly without multitasking. This helps you exercise the muscle of connecting with your own experience instead of dismissing it.
2. Realize you’re practicing being with yourself in a brand new way—so try different approaches! By treating yourself with more acceptance and support, you’re going to feel stronger because you’re choosing connection over avoidance.
3. Remember, you’re just trying to cultivate more calmness and normalcy as you do this. Picture holding any urgent thoughts in your hand rather than rushing to fix them. Your brain might feel messy, scattered, or harsh at first, but that’s okay. Let yourself write it down and experience the relief of not having to do anything about it right away. Simply being with yourself differently is already a win!

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