47 - How Self-Compassion Brings Real, Lasting Growth

In This Episode:
Annaliese and Alan explore a simple, important building block for making your growth lasting and real. Annaliese highlights the transformative power of building your growth on the foundation of self-compassion, which helps you thrive and trust yourself beyond just hitting goals.

You’ll Hear About:
-The myth of doing “more” or “enough” might be a reason change hasn’t stuck for you. Discover how pushing yourself less and supporting yourself more is what helps you move forward while growing your self-belief.
- Using self-compassion to change:
  1. Check that no goal you make overshadows your personal priorities and the things that truly matter in your life.
  2. Aim for goals that enhance your quality of life, not diminish it in pursuit of success.
-Shaming yourself as motivation really harms you by damaging your self-concept and decreasing the sustainability of changes you make.
-Recognize your mindset when pursuing change. Are you supporting yourself, envisioning possibilities, and allowing yourself to learn and start anew? These types of self-compassionate thoughts are key to more effective growth goals.

Resources:
- Experience coaching with Annaliese! Schedule your FREE, 1-hour Discovery Chat at www.linktree.com/coachannaliese. Share your story with her and she'll personalize actionable tips for the real changes you want to see.

How Compassion Builds Better Change:
- Your Thoughts: Shift from the limiting defeat of  “I don’t matter” to setting yourself free by accepting mistakes more and embracing all the steps of change along the way.
- Your Feelings: Move from feeling trapped and judgmental to feeling allowing, calm, and free to try.
- Your Actions: Transition from forced actions and overthinking to being open, curious, and willing to try new things.

The Cost of Not Having Compassion:
1. Narrows your perspective, making success seem more important than better quality of life.
2. Limits your choices based on limiting thoughts of worthiness, cutting you off from possibilities that are actually available to you.
3. Reinforces harmful self-ideas, linking your worth to perfectionism.
4. Increases stress and misery; because harsh approaches create a harsh reality.

Listen today to stop getting trapped in a cycle of harshness as you're pursuing your goals - make your growth journey a way better experience for yourself!