31 - Why Blame Doesn't Help: How To Handle Hurts & Setbacks Better

Annaliese and Alan delve into the relatable but unhelpful patterns of blame, uncovering why we do it and how it ultimately fails to provide the relief we're looking for. Blaming at first can feel like we're asserting power, but in reality, it strips away our choices and control. Annaliese highlights the importance of understanding our emotions and motivations, steering away from actions of blame towards actions of self-support and healing.

You'll hear these highlights and more:

• You don't get resolution through blame, instead seek how to comfort and heal yourself versus assigning fault.
• How to recognize in yourself the urge to blame and its underlying motivations.
• How to harness your emotions as signals for self-awareness and growth.
• Distinguishing between blame and responsibility, emphasizing growing your own empowerment through taking accountability.
• Noticing ahead of time the damaging effects of blame on personal growth and well-being.

Ways To Help Yourself (Instead of Blaming):

• Embrace your emotions as guideposts towards self-care (they show you what you need!).
• Identify your needs and provide yourself support as you go.
• Release the pressure to assign blame, choosing instead more constructive responses.
• Cultivate for yourself a mindset of taking personal responsibility and being open to growth.

Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your free, 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese! We'll spend the first 20-30 minutes as you share about your life, story, and situation, followed by 30 minutes of personalized coaching. This chat is where you can experience coaching with Annaliese to determine if it aligns with your goals. 

Listen in today to get practical insights and actionable steps as you navigate hurtful and frustrating situations with more grace and self-compassion.