25 - Daily, Practical Ways To Stop People-Pleasing

In This Episode:
Annaliese and Alan explore practical ways to people-please less and experience genuine change in your daily life. Annaliese emphasizes the importance of prioritizing self-care and understanding that people-pleasing doesn't serve you. It's time to care for yourself just as much as you care for others.

You'll Hear About:
- The key to people-pleasing less is to notice you have a choice of how to act. Start replacing unhelpful thoughts and actions with ones that better support you and what you need too.
- Embrace the idea that the goal isn't to completely stop but to help yourself gradually decrease, allowing you to catch and choose your responses more freely.
- Shifting your mindset away from feeling obligated to please others and more toward seeing that you have a choice for authenticness in your own life is crucial. 

Resources:
Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese for your free 60-minute Zoom or phone call with Annaliese. Engage in an open, casual conversation where you can bring up your questions about life coaching, and let Annaliese help you strategize your current life challenges. No strings, you might only need this call!

Ask yourself empowering questions to stop people-pleasing:

1. "What would it take for me to stop?" – Create space to reflect and identify opportunities for different choices.
2. "Why do I start people-pleasing? What am I feeling?" – Uncover the real reasons behind your choices and identify your unmet needs so you can better support yourself.
3. "What do I really value here? How can I show up authentically while supporting my values?" – Explore meaningful ways to align your actions with your true values instead of just continuing to people-please.

Practical Ways To Stop People-Pleasing:

1. Practice self-awareness and take charge: Be the decision-maker by examining your thoughts and the situations that trigger your people-pleasing actions.
2. Identify your real values: Consider if your people-pleasing aligns with and satisfies your values, and explore healthier, more effective ways to be loving and caring to others.
3. Tune in and care for yourself: Prioritize self-care as a first step during uncomfortable moments. When you support yourself this way, instead of making decisions out of discomfort, you'll feel more free to make decisions that align with your well-being.
4. Set boundaries in relationships: Empower yourself and others by establishing healthy boundaries that contribute to the well-being of both of you.
5. Be willing to disappoint others: Practice being more okay with disappointing others when it means living authentically from your values. You'd want this authenticity for them, so remind yourself why this is so important for you too.

Join Annaliese and Alan as they talk about ways to have a more authentic and fulfilling life. Use this opportunity to make lasting changes for yourself with less people-pleasing stress!