22 - Navigating The Negative For Growth, Truth, And Better Results

In this episode, Annaliese and Alan talk through how it feels to handle negative feelings and life's problems. Annaliese sheds light on the idea that while your instinct might be to minimize or avoid negativity, if you acknowledge and learn from it in the moment, it paves the way for being your true self and moving forward in the direction you want.

What You'll Discover:

• Why Not Minimizing Negative Feelings?
  Jumping to downplay negative feelings instead of actually feeling them can stop you from learning and pivoting like you'd want to in the moment.

• Know Your Distractions:
  Understanding your go-to distractions or coping mechanisms (like grabbing a snack, binge-watching TV shows, or scrolling on your phone) helps empower you to make different, more constructive choices.

• Normalizing Negative Experiences:
  Negative experiences in life aren't necessarily red flags; instead, they are normal milestones that provide valuable information for your decision-making and personal growth.

• The Power of Self-Reflection:
  Listening to your own thoughts is a crucial aspect of navigating negativity better. It's your gateway to the truth about your experience, and helps you handle it in a healthier way.

Practical Resources:

• Discovery Chat: This is free for you! You can bring your goals, desires, or situations to the table with Annaliese. This no-strings-attached call provides practical insights to help you achieve better results, whether or not you choose to work with her.

Reasons You Might Be Minimizing The Negative:

• "I don't want this to be a big deal."
• "I don't want to dwell or get consumed by this."
• "What if I don't have what I need to handle it?"

What Helps You Interact With Negativity Better:

• Notice unhelpful patterns in how you're handling negativity.
• Avoid minimizing, numbing, or escaping, as these actions reinforce discomfort for you and make you feel less capable.
• Choose a new feeling you'd rather have in dealing with negativity ("capable" or "in charge" is a great start here).
• Identify the empowering thoughts you'd rather think that you can repeat to yourself in negative moments.

2 Questions To Get The Best Out Of Negativity:

• "How can I get information that's helpful to me here?"
• "How can I get more emotional and practical support for myself here?"

Gain some practical ways to navigate negative experiences for your own personal growth, truth, and better results. Annaliese and Alan provide a down-to-earth exploration of these concepts, offering relatable strategies to empower you in your journey. Remember, facing negativity head-on is how you live a more meaningful and purposeful life.