19 - Speaking Your Needs In Your Marriage

In This Episode:
Annaliese and Alan dive into the intricacies of addressing your needs inside your marriage and relationships. Annaliese underlines the importance of trusting yourself, embracing honesty, and navigating growth openly—especially when it's different from your partner's path and experience.

What You'll Hear About:
- Discover the key to maintaining balance and connection by trusting and accepting yourself more.
- Learn how to navigate change within your relationship by openly sharing your experiences, even if your partner may not fully understand.
- Understand the natural differences in needs between partners and the importance of open communication.
- Explore the power of choice when your partner has needs you desire, and how prioritizing self-care can fulfill your own needs.
- Overcome the guilt associated with recognizing and expressing your needs. Do this by honoring your experiences more inside yourself and giving yourself permission to prioritize self-care.

Resources:
- www.linktree.com/coachannaliese Want support living like the real you, more and more? Click my link for your free 60-minute Discovery Chat. Just an hour of no-strings chatting with me about the situation you’re dealing with and get insightful tools and support. This might be all you need! Can't wait to connect with you.
-Know Your Needs Journaling:
This list of questions to ask yourself helps you notice your need, accept your need more, and brainstorm how you’d like to communicate it to your partner.
    -What do I think my need is?
    -Why do I feel trapped or unsupported right now?
    -Where is the pressure feeling or trigger coming from?
    -What’s the pressure feeling telling me I can’t get?
    -What would I want access to if I could just snap my fingers and didn’t have to
      have a conversation about it?

-Communicating Needs In Your Marriage As A “2-Way Street”:
To avoid a double standard or divisiveness, create more openness, safety, and honesty in your marriage by practicing this way to communicate.
     -When you ask for support (not permission) from your partner in getting your
       need met, it’s healthiest to make your need clear to your partner and also
       invite your partner to be honest and clear asking for support in getting their
       own needs met too.
     -Cultivate a standard of support in your marriage by inviting both partner’s
       needs to the table openly, clearly, and regularly.

Tune in for practical insights on fostering honesty, connection, and authenticity in your marriage. It's time to speak your needs AND strengthen the bond with your partner. Let's wake up your dream of having a fulfilling and genuine relationship!