17 - Update Your Definitions To Live Like You Really Want To

In This Episode:
Annaliese and Alan dive into the powerful impact of the definitions we hold in our minds, often subconsciously, and how they're shaping what's important to us. Take a real look at your definitions of goal-pursuing words like "organization," "success," and "productivity." Are these definitions working for you or against you? Annaliese emphasizes the transformative effect of taking charge of your thoughts, words, and definitions, showing you a path to live authentically and not let the past hinder present desires. The key takeaway? Take charge yourself to refresh and update the rules that are leading your life.

You’ll Hear About:
- How you have your own rules that have been guiding your life (whether you knew it or not). They're either supporting you or hindering your progress!
- How powerful it is to redefine your rules and definitions to keep you moving forward.
- Practical steps to identify and overcome your limiting thoughts (below in Resources!).
- How you are building evidence for your brain every time you take an action based on a more empowered definition (that you pick!).

Resources:
- www.linktree.com/coachannaliese - Ready to live authentically? Grab your free 60-minute Discovery Chat with Annaliese, for insightful tools and support to apply to the circumstance you're in.

Practice the Big Red Stop Sign to take charge:
  - When anxiety creeps in, pause by picturing the Big Red Stop Sign.
  - Let that space help you notice and name your feeling, and remind yourself you're in charge
  - Ask the feeling why it's there, and see how you can support yourself getting your need met

Get Curious: Notice what’s holding you back
  - Identify obstacles by questioning your thought and definitions about the habits or behaviors you need to move forward. Why do you feel stuck? What are you avoiding? Why are you avoiding it? What is making you feel disqualified from beginning to practice what you need?
  -Identify what your definitions or thoughts need to be to shift you back to feeling in charge and capable to handle what's in front of you. You can experiment here! Just give yourself openness to try a fresh perspective in your definition that empowers you to move forward like you want.

3 Steps to Change Your Thought:
  1. Reword your new definition in the present tense.
(ex. "Self-care is productive. Self-care is what keeps me accomplishing what's meaningful to me.")
  2. Align your definition with your true capabilities.
(ex."Prioritizing taking an hour-long nap on most days is something I realize I can do when I set it up ahead and protect the time for it. I decide to use time how I need it most by thinking about it in advance.")
  3. Craft a definition that helps you face and accept reality.
(ex. "When I do new things or events or spend a lot of social time, I need extra support to not feel so run down. I remind myself that I'll need to block a extra time off proactively for more regular self-care and refreshing activities during busier weeks.") 

Listen in with us and feel yourself empower your life by redefining the terms that are shaping your journey!